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Daddy's lesson on anal sex: Position and Posture

Daddy’s lesson on Posture and Position. This lesson is not, repeat NOT, just for bottoms. As a top it is also your responsibility to know so you can train a bottom. Most will tell you the same thing about positioning your back, but they neglect one thing: understanding why. It is advantageous to not only understand the different positions, and their uses in pleasing a partner, but that when you are doing it right it can maximize your safety AND your enjoyment.  The whole ‘push out ‘ to make it easier to enter idea is almost a moot point if you are properly educated on how your body works. There are dozens of muscles in the area that contract and flex based on the position of your lower back and hips. Many of the muscles that control bowel movements are involuntarily affected by your body’s posture as much as the position.  What is in there? As you can see, it’s not just a pipe, a tube or even simple at all. It took millions of years to get it this far, and while you don’t need to know ALL of this, there are some things you should know. I have written previously about Pelvic Floor Exercises and their benefit to health and sexual performance, but here you can see the Levator Ani, which when combined with a few others create what is called the pelvic floor. The layman’s version is this muscle is not only what helps you when you go to the bathroom, it helps control WHERE YOUR PROSTATE IS. This means that as the bottom you can make it rub against your partner’s penis even more. Let that sink in a moment. By contracting this muscle (and yes it does take practice) you can create an internal sensation for your partner while boosting your own pleasure when this lifts. When you have an orgasm this muscle helps to pull and tighten bringing everything in line which is why people say the best feeling is being inside someone when their partner is having the orgasm because suddenly it goes from a silken glove to a spasming, shuddering grip around the penis. These exercises and a basic understanding really do change the way you experience sex. There is a reason why certain cultures practice sex as a religious act and see it as a source of supernatural power. This is part of that understanding. Squat don’t sit. This trick isn’t one people think about often and they should. You don’t (or shouldn’t) normally walk around having bowel movements after a certain age. This is because your body has developed a muscle that keeps it SHUT when you aren’t in certain positions. This lets you walk, run, jump, all those great things without crapping your pants. Good yes? Well. When you’re trying to shove something IN there the principle is the same. That muscle (and many others) will work against you making it at best more difficult and at worst painful. Most of these are completely involuntary and you can’t train yourself to not have those reactions without compromising your normal function to one degree or another. There is, thankfully, a fairly simple trick to making that a non-issue and (as a bonus) give you the ability to use those automatic processes to increase pleasure with your partner. It’s all in HOW you sit and position your legs: by keeping your anal canal in a ‘squatting’ style position you keep the passage relaxed and open. When you rock your hips forward or back you cause the muscle that keeps you from going to the bathroom to tighten and relax, which is a desirable effect when combined with other movements and muscle exercises ONCE he’s inside. You’ll hear partners tell you that you are ‘tighter’ in certain positions or that it feels ‘better’. They are right, it does, but there is more to it than that and the nuances will be covered in the section on specific positions.   Putting the prostate to work. If you are gay and having sex but DON’T know what the prostate is, or what it does, you are in trouble. If you are a top: finger your bottom boy and FIND it. You really cannot miss it under your finger because you will feel something different there AND your boy will let you know you found it because his body will light up like a Christmas tree. If you are the bottom boy in question do the same thing: get in there and FIND IT. It doesn’t matter which position you are in, you will want this knowledge so that when this all comes together you blow both of your respective minds. If the prostate is in the proper position it’s a win win. The top and bottom both get increased pleasure from the experience: the top gets to feel your button rubbing his head and you get to feel his head stroking your button a WHOLE LOT MORE. Instead of screaming deeper, harder, faster.. you can make it happen for yourself as well. In to win. This part is fairly simple: if you think about the previous points it should be clear now that when your back is arched and legs are in the right position everyone wins. If you lose control and go for one of those ‘constipated contractions’ you’re going to force him out by changing the angle of the hole he’s trying to get in. It’s a defense mechanism, but if you want to bottom you really should try to control that one. As a top you should also help them by keeping a hand on their lower back as a reminder, especially early on for them. Also be aware that it may have been involuntary because you caused pain. Check in, talk to each other and be smart about it. Keep your ass pointed at the same angle his cock is at as much as possible. Tab D goes into hole A, but only if A isn’t bent at the wrong angle. The consequences are painful shoves, a lot of popping and in general a much rougher ride going in than it should be. You want to conserve that energy for a long ride instead of wasting it just getting in the door. Getting down to business. All of these are examples and basic training guidelines. You do not have to , nor should you, use nothing but these when having sex. On the contrary, try anything that sounds fun. When you are in ‘cowboy’ position: Keep your back upright and keep your hips angled like you would be squatting if your legs are at your sides or ACTUALLY squatting if you aren’t doing a seated cowboy. When you are in ‘doggie’ style position standing up: This one is THE most complained about posture because it’s easy to get lazy in (as the bottom) which makes it more difficult. Keep your lower back down, arched upward while keeping your hips rotated to match his entry. When there is a height difference this can get tricky if you aren’t careful. There IS a point at which you can’t point your ass up any higher which means your partner will have to hunker down behind you to enter properly. When you are in Doggie-style on all fours: Anytime your back is facing his stomach you will want to heed the same advice. The difference is that when you are on all fours/hands and knees, you can control exactly where your ass is aimed and how you position your prostate to be stimulated. Keep your back arched up, keep his dick in your hole by maintaining  a kneeling ‘squat’ position and keep your body where you want it to be to get the most out of it.Keep it up, keep it in and keep it on target. When you are laying face down: The rule is the same here for what you do with your ass. If you lay flat, the hole is out of alignment and is going to make things less pleasurable for the both of you. Face down, butt up. Simple no? You’d be amazed how many bottoms/tops don’t get that part. With the ass raised up, penetration is easier, deeper, and stimulates that boybutton a WHOLE lot more. When you are face up: This position is one of my personal favorites for a number of reasons. Not only do I get maximum penetration depth and have complete control over the stroke, but I get to see my boys face AND feel his feet braced against my chest. Having the feet (like in the illustration) positioned with knees together and up on their chest brings the entire lower anatomy in line with the downward stroke. This means a great deal of pleasure for both of you but also gives the bottom ‘breathing room’ to relax for a while. I personally change positions often but usually end with this one because it means the only thing he has to concentrate on is the feeling of me inside him. When you are on your side” There is a strong temptation in this position to move around a lot, to stay pressed against your top and in general to try to be ‘active’. What is important here is that you keep one or both (preferably) of your legs tucked upward. This again allows for greater depth and pleasure on your part. If you don’t you move things out of position. I personally prefer the T position, where the boy lays on his side and I am seated behind his ass because it puts my head in a different position and increases his pleasure. In conclusion: When you combine the knowledge of anatomy with understanding of posture changes on the position of internal organs, you not only make sex safer and easier but you make it a much more enjoyable experience. There is no losing here. It’s a very small amount of effort and self control, even with the exercises which take a minute or two a day, to change sex forever. Say goodbye to “grunt-grunt” and say hello to “oh shit, oh fuck”.

Guiding hand.

There is no shame here boy. You’ve nothing to hide from me. You are mine to appreciate, mine to adore as I see fit. Don’t be embarrassed to be aroused by my touch. It’s natural. It’s what I want to see and it makes me happy. Take those off. I want you to be naked.

That’s better. No one can see you but Daddy. Relax and I will show you how good your whole body can feel. You’re my beautiful boy and I don’t want you to forget that.

What I want most, even more than you knowing how much I appreciate you, is that I don’t ever want you to forget that you are mine.

You’re Daddy’s boy now and that’s not going to change. Is it son? 

“no Daddy. I’m yours, all of me, forever.”

I know son. I know.

Dear Daddy: What do you mean by erogenous zones and control points on a boy?

Daddy I saw what you said about the pic of the boy standing, of his 12 erogenous zones and 3 control points – I am just wondering if you could elaborate, what are those erogenous zones and control points that you see on the boy?

I think I’ve written about several things like this in the past, touching on the ‘micro-tells’ a body betrays itself with. If I recall the photograph and post you mean, he was against a wall with his legs spread slightly, as if waiting. Since I can’t locate that post for direct reference, I will use this one as a stand in. Same basic idea, just the nuances are different based on boy/situation.

Part one: Erogenous Zones.

Arousal causes changes in ‘texture’ of skin, as well as it’s color. Gooseflesh, taught or tight skin, blush or paleness, all these tell me where blood is moving based on his level of arousal. To the common eye a pink cheek is a sign of being sensually stimulated for some boys, but to me i look elsewhere to see where his body is asking for touch. The most sensitive are rarely the brightest places or the most covered in excited bumps; the opposite is often true.
The places where the skin is thin, or pale or tight, is where blood is moving away from and that is where you will find the greatest responses. If my goal (and it usually is) is to engage the entire body in what I’m doing it becomes a game of cat and mouse, redirecting the blood in his body with touch and sensation in other areas. It’s entirely possible to ‘drain the blush’ from a boy by stimulating his body elsewhere. It will come back but there will be a color change when it’s done right just as you can watch that same blush rise up his torso as he comes close to reaching a mechanical climax.
In this example I can see a few places (not the best lighting for a ‘spot’ check, but it will do) that I can point out to illustrate what I’m talking about as well as to make it clear that there is a difference between ‘in the area’ and ‘on the spot’ when you’re analyzing a persons sensual centers.
First up is the most obvious to me is the object of focus for this photo: his butt. This tells me he’s proud of it, finds it attractive or at least knows that others do. This means its a place he accepts attention easily. I call things like this the ‘handshake’ body part. When ‘waking a boy’ up, spots like this will get the least amount of jumping in response to touch and various other stimulation methods.
The whole area is a ‘happy’ place, comfortable to him to receive appreciation but, and perhaps even unbeknownst to him, it’s not his bottom that is the key location: its the swooping crest from inner thigh that runs from directly underneath his pelvis to the outer edge of the crease beneath his cheek as he stands there.  (pictured below where you can actually see the crease; it is directly to either side of his testicles).

“Out of sight” spots like that usually don’t get much attention compared to the ‘obvious’ places and that makes them the real target. You can see the difference in color there as well. It appears discolored compared to other places in the area and that’s a definite flag to pay attention there.
There are many more and for similar reasons you use visual clues mentioned earlier to detect them. For a short list:  Mid to upper crest of the ear. Note the red color? A cool slow breath (as if silently whistling or cooling off a hot liquid) across there but then gently bite and exhale across the lobe warming it.  After that comes the roads less traveled like back of knee, inner thigh above knee but stopping mid-thigh.

These things are like untangling a mass of strings: you start with the piece you can readily work with and go from there. He loves his butt, share that appreciation with him and then show him just how little he’s experienced of what his body can do.

Part Two: Control Points.

Control points are a similar idea to the erogenous zone manipulation described above; they are places you can use minimal pressure to assert dominance and maintain the appearance of control enhancing his sensation of ‘submission’ and the release that brings.
The thing about control and submission is that what you (as a dom) need to do most is to use a boys instinct against himself, so that he goes further into the ‘headspace’ of submission. By making his body ‘revolt’ against his control you help strip that illusion from him so he can truly get the release he needs.To do this you play on the basic instinct that pleasure is something you wish to prolong and increase.
It’s base instinct to want to remain where you feel good, and there are somethings you can do that feel VERY good to someone else but by slowly easing away you force them to move back to meet your touch once more. Through practice and close attention you won’t need to move much at all to demonstrate the control I’m talking about here.
In the case of places like this on the body the image gives me a few to work with. If my memory serves, this and the original also expose those same places. Pushing down on the small of his back, a moderate grip on the nape of his neck, pinning his hands to either of those two places, these are a basic idea of what I’m talking about here.
Taking it further with a finger tip in the right place, with the right pressure, you don’t need to use your hands to keep a boy prone and no I don’t mean on his boybutton. That’s too easy. Control, to be effective, can’t be common or easily shaken off like that can be. I mean very specific places that can literally control a boy’s physical motions. Those are more ‘hardcore’ and uncomfortable in general but a bit of discomfort can ground a boy and keep him from drifting too far away without being guided there.
I think of them like anchors or tethers, they keep him close to home while things are going on. The trick with some is in how you use them. The backs of his knees for example. If he’s to ‘stay with his hands on the wall’ then stepping in behind him and knocking them up slightly so he has to sit back onto your legs can cause that momentary feeling of falling that’s immediately replaced by being caught and safe again. Done right, there is no risk of falling but it is that instinct that we’re playing with here.
The most obvious control points I touched on earlier in this section: the wrists (overlapped and placed on either the small of the back, or over the nape of his neck for double control effect) and when you combine that with one of the other two spots (being the same nape or back spot) while pressing the wrist into the other a boy gets a sense of being completely under control.

To illustrate the combination:
His hands are brought together in the small of his back. My right hand firmly holds them in place. My knees snake in behind his and by lifting upward with my feet I destabilize him making him stagger or hop slightly which is when I step in and ensure he goes no where but back onto my legs and against my chest. With my  left hand hand I press his neck into the wall as I gently lean foward and slide a quick cooling breath down his ear before I bite the lobe and growl.
I think you get the idea.
A boy’s body is both map and guidebook to a trained eye. There are so many ways a body betrays you that there are numerous books written about it. I however am not interested in ‘lie detection’ or playing poker. The only game that happens with me is that I can hear your body talking and we are both conspiring to get rid of that pesky fear of losing control. You don’t have to worry about that when dealing with a Daddy, but especially not with me. I’m going to break you and your body is going to tell me how. 

Addendum by TD&S

It is amazing what a little poke or push can do to the body.
Especially if you have sex that is something besides “missionary with the lights off” a foundational knowledge of the central nervous system and anatomy can reap many benefits.
Let us again look to the first picture that Dirtydaddythings posted. He sees The Booty. A bodyworker (or perhaps a sleep deprived medical student) would see a clear path to the spinal column, which of course is a clear path to the Central Nervous System, or as I like to think of it, the strings of a marionette.
When discussing erogenous zone and control points, what is being activated are the nerves, both central, sympathetic and parasympathetic.   Dont worry, Im gonna show, not tell.
Before we move immediately to The Booty, as DDT does, I want to draw your attention to the boy’s neck area, which is practically shouting for a firm hand to grip it, tenderly but secure to really get into the boy’s mind and help him shut it off. We know it works, and how good it feels for the one on the receiving end.
But why?

Pause button!
Ok, everybody, reach with one to the back of your head. With a finger, gently! feel for the little divot between the back of the skull and the two sides of the neck muscles meeting at the center point.
That divot space is the external occipital protuberance, because it sticks from the occipit bone on the outside of the skull. This area accumulates a lot of knots due to stress and movement, which is why massaging the scalp helps relieve some types of headaches.
A finger there, or under the chin, tipping a boy’s face up, up and thereby closing the space between head and shoulder ridge, are *very* effective for this reason. It is a physically vulnerable spot, and a major area of nerves, and blood flow. Anything you do to this part of the body directly speaks to the lizard brain (those instincts DDT was talking about earlier) sitting cradled in the back of the skull.
Moving along now!

These are the Dermatomes. This is how your skin is wired, connected to the nerves like an old phone switchboard operation, arms and head provided by Cranial and so on, like your power company or phone company. This is kind of where erogenous zones come in, as each person responds to stimuli in each area differently.
Continuing down, we finally (!!!) reach The Booty

This is a representation of the lumbar and sacral vertebrae, and the weird pizza shaped thing is your sacrum. It fuses in childhood, which is why a fetus is able to from a C shape to a S shape spine (hopefully) as it grows into a child having exited the womb.
Im gonna share a secret with y’all. You can quickly lower someone’s blood pressure knowing what you know now.

This technique only works when a person is laying flat on their stomach, face down. Gently place the palm of each hand on the Occipit = back of head(!) and the Sacrum.  Like pressing a button, quickly, carefully press both hands down together, one time. I highly suggest sensual body strokes to sides and the spine, very light pressure. It creates a very sensual experience, when added to the cranial-sacro activation push.
However, there is one last thing…

Let us return to the subject of control points. The bodyworker in this picture is actually using his long fingers to brace and the true force is in his thumbs.
Consider the power then, in your thumbs. The control in “control points” is actually a very subtle thing. It’s not about throwing one’s weight around or yanking a boy’s hair to direct him for a blowjob. Instead, it is about precision. A true Alpha or Dom need never raise their voice or their fist to drive the point home (lolol, point).
Instead, you can nimbly pluck the nerve’s of your sub’s body like a skilled musician giving a virtuoso performance.