Dear Daddy: You've mentioned that you like to think of Gomez and Morticia as role models. What do you mean by that?

anonymous asked:

You've mentioned before that you like to think of Gomez and Morticia as a role model for a good couple. I'm curious. What specifically did you mean by that? The playfulness that those two share? Or the obvious lust/love they seem to have for one another?

These 10 points address Gomez, but it is in specific Raul and Angelica’s portrayals that gave the inspiration for the first point. I could sum up my intention by saying this:
Love like eternity has separated you, even if you’re coming back from the bathroom. Not the ‘wild passion’ but the utter devotion, adoration and enjoyment of every moment. Fill that time with as many things together as you can and enjoy the banter and wit you both possess. Don’t be afraid to be playful, goofy, or just to laugh when others might think it inappropriate. Joy is always appropriate. When the opportunity presents itself: Dance, embrace, be thankful for each other and then comes the make love like a wild beast.

Love and appreciate everything about your partner, from the smallest birthmark to reading upside down in a chair or barking at passing cars. These things are part of what made them someone you love so give thanks to those things individually and in their own turn.
Be honest in how you feel, don’t be afraid to love in a way that makes ‘other’ people uncomfortable. Many have given up on the dream of an ‘eternal love’ but if you find yourself with someone who makes time meaningless, then embrace that with all the passion in your soul. Some would call you mad, but that’s the point isn’t it? Love is the greatest of madness.    

Beyond all the poetry, dancing, passion and adoration Gomez and Morticia shared there was a truly greater lesson that could easily have been lost in all the humor and ‘insanity’ of their world: #6 on the list. Nurture the passions of your loved ones. This is huge when you add it to ‘appreciating the uniqueness of their natural personality’.
You were not ‘forced’ to be an Addams. You were one from birth. Even if not born into the family, you were still an Addams the moment you joined it. There was no discussion about past. No judgment. None of that. They gave 100% acceptance of anyone brave enough to be themselves. Their children especially weren’t molded to be like their parents. They were given the freedom of complete acceptance and self expression. So what if your child hates ‘perky’ days but embraces the gloom or chooses to read instead of playing with the other children. Their destiny isn’t yours to deny or shape for them. They may paint a work of timeless expression rather than obvious (and common) beauty.

Take note of how they ‘treated the bad guys’. Even they, the ones trying to rob or kill them, were given respect. The worst they got was a touch of disappointment for the lack of creativity or commitment. That.. and Morticia’s shade is on it’s own level.

The real power of the Addams family is that there is NO place for shame. No kink shame (kink does not exist there, nor should it), no geek or weird or any shaming at all. Shame has no foothold in a world where the uniqueness of a person is exalted. THIS is an empowering lesson.

You, all of you as you are and in every detail, is something to be treasured. No matter what you think about yourself, the world is diminished when you hide your true self and darkens dreadfully when you leave it. Celebrate the moments you are given here, respect that gift with the honesty of being yourself, and appreciate what those moments are filled with. Embrace what others shame. Empower your inner ‘geek’.
That I think is the ultimate lesson of life. Be free to be yourself, learn to embrace that without shaming yourself, and be proud of what you bring to this world that no one else can. Without these things, we never would have learned to fly never mind reaching the stars. The world doesn’t just need smart people or talented artists.. the world needs something better, something more important:

The world needs you.

So this is what I mean when I say I would prefer a love (and life) like Gomez and Morticia. There are more reasons, but these are at the top of my list.