Daddy Knows Best: Chapter Two: The Basics of Rimming

The Basics of Rimming:
Rimming isn’t just a matter of ‘eating out’ a nice butt. It’s about touch, heat and pleasing your bottom. By properly rimming you help them relax, which is crucial for more activity to go smoothly. I usually advise rimming BEFORE fingering for several reasons, not the least of which is it helps relax the anus making that stage of fingering much easier but NOT to be neglected. Sex that is like in porn is barely the middle of the spectrum of pleasure a good Top can make his bottom experience. I will cover several different aspects of Rimming in this lesson, and later I will discuss how to combine the two to create a more advanced technique.



Part 1: Positions to rim in.
There are several positions to rim in, the two most popular are when your bottom is on all fours, back straight and bottom fully exposed, and the other is on their back with their legs tucked upward, but really any position where your bottom is comfortable can work.
These first two positions are most useful because of where the prostate is located during the activity. On all fours, gravity is holding it in close to its normal position. On their back, the prostate is lowered slightly, almost dangling behind the inner walls and is easier to stimulate in this position. Both are equally useful, though my favorite is on their backs, because it also allows you to massage the groin around the genitals (and to a degree ignore them, but there are several reasons for that and different times to pay attention to them, right now you want them focused on their ass, so don’t jump the gun and switch centers of pleasure on them, stay focused on their ass, just like you want them to be.)

Part 2: What to do and when.

Experience is the best teacher, but some foreknowledge will help you recognize the signals your bottom can’t hide or resist telling you about. Lets take our first look at what you have to use in this situation. You have 5 tools already at your disposal on your face alone for stimulating your bottom as a Top. In order I recommend these being used and most often: Breath, Lips, Tongue, Nose and Chin.
Breath: This ranges from a slow gentle close exhale, to a quick cooling breath across the sensitive skin of the anus. A slow deep exhale, especially with a sigh or growl from you provide audible stimulation as well as vibration through the area if you are up against the ring itself. It lets your bottom know you are enjoying eating their ass without porn dialogue, and those gentle vibrations help stimulate the internal organs you are looking forward to fucking. Breath is foreplay, and can be used to  spur your bottom further or make them shiver depending on which technique you use. As a Top you also need to remember to breathe when eating so it lasts longer and so you don’t wind up passing out or having to stop. Continual contact and stimulation is the goal here.
Lips can be used to place gentle kisses, deep long kisses, slid aside to expose teeth for biting, nibbling and chewing (which I recommend to use occasionally, alternated with a cooling breath to bring maximum stimulation) and gives the bottom a genuine sensation of being eaten, which can be very arousing for some boys. Lips can also be dragged across the skin of the anus by placing your top lip above the ring, and pulling down slowly, if your lips are dry they will skid a little, which is a different sensation from the other techniques used, and can be very helpful for breaking the ice and getting to the good stuff and lead directly to the use of the tongue.
Tongue is the most obvious and the most used and useful tool as it is warm, wet and gentle even when pressed firmly against the ring of the anus, and it is the one you have the second most control over, breath being the most controlled technique. The tongue can probe through the folds of the anus, flick across the skin, or slather it up with long strokes. The tongue is by far the most effective technique for direct stimulation.
Nose has a few interesting uses to be used occasionally as counter point to the tongue. A deep inhalation of the scent, followed by a slow exhale through the mouth provides both an opportunity to catch your breath but to enhance that feeling of being eaten and for some, worshiped, and lets be honest, the scent of a butt can be VERY arousing. Another technique involves using the nose instead of a finger, and dragging it across the ring from down to up, which puts the lips in line to bite/kiss, the breath in position to exhale directly on the ring, and then the final tool is in position to be used.
The Chin can be occasionally useful and has various applications. If you are clean shaven, the chin will slide smoothly, if you have stubble, used gently this can ‘tickle’ or stimulate further blood flow into the area. A beard however long, so long as it isn’t stubble or still sticking straight out from the chin, can be used to stimulate and ‘clean up’ the spit from other techniques. The chin can also be used to drag, like the lips, but in the opposite direction. By alternating the lip drag and the chin scrape, you have a soft sensation going down and a stronger, firmer sensation going up, and once again put you in position to go right back to using your breath and tongue.



The Final Lesson: Putting it all together and the Combination Technique.
Rimming shouldn’t be a ‘clean’ event, its a contact sport, the same with fingering. If you’ve paid attention to the order I’ve described events in, a typical scene should run like this. 
 
Your boy, laying on his back with his knees up, feels you slide down behind his hole. You start with a gentle exhale of warm air across the skin while gently massaging his cheeks, you place a soft kiss on the ring, then lick upward with your tongue, exhaling across the skin as you go. You drag your upper lip from the top to the bottom of the hole flicking with your tongue as you go down. You take a deep inhale as your nose slides past, then bringing your chin upward, slide your chin up exhaling as you go past again. You stop now, to kiss the ring, flick it with your tongue, probe gently with the tip and massage the inner thighs and cheeks with your hands. You gently slide the cheeks apart and press your face against the hole and begin moving your tongue in circles, tapping the ring with the tip, and kissing, biting and chewing the skin around the inner thighs, taint and above and below the hole.
Taking a breather, you sit back, still gripping his cheeks in your hands. You turn your thumbs toward his ring and being gently massaging the flesh to either side of his now warm ring. You know from his reactions and his gasps, you’ve done your job, as he whimpers quietly while he holds his legs in the air for you. You shift your hands so you don’t break contact, and slide one hand down while still holding his other cheek. Slowly you begin rubbing your finger around the rim, pausing now and again to tap the center of the hole to wake it up even more and let it know its time for more. You begin alternating the circling finger with a slide slowly from the top to the ring to press firmly with the tip without entering yet. You know the longer you make him wait for what he wants the greater his need for it.
You begin sliding your finger pad from top to bottom, bracing it with a finger crossed behind it so your touch is firm but not forcing the hole to open because you want it to open for you not because of you. Slowly you begin sliding the tip of the first finger past the ring as it begins winking at you, encouraging you to go further. Not wanting to miss the invitation, you slide in to the first knuckle and gently, slowly, slide back out and circle the ring once more with your finger. Then you slide back in, this time a little further, and pull out even slower than before. Taking your time, you continue until you’ve slid your finger in all the way, moving one knuckle at a time, and when that final penetration comes to go all the way you slide slowly in until you feel a roundness under your fingertip. Gently you begin rubbing it, massaging it slowly but firmly, as your boy begins to tense and flex around your finger, you know you’ve hit your destination, his prostate and slide your finger gently out to massage the ring again.
 
Daddy Says: Here is where the combination of techniques comes in. It may be common sense but common sense is an uncommon virtue, so it bears explaining here. 
 
The Combination Technique.

Taking everything I’ve described previously, you start all over, but mix techniques together. You’ve already gone finger deep but this is only half way to really being ready to get fucked. Relaxed and open is just part of it, you want your bottom writhing on the bed by the time he feels the head of your cock tip tease across his hole before sliding in. This is how the rest of it goes.

You slide back down to lick around the rim with your tongue, exhaling across the skin, not withdrawing your finger fully, but leaving the tip in, dragging the hole downward slightly so your tongue can slide up your finger and in past the ring at the tip. Exhaling into the ring itself, you slide your finger in deep again to massage the prostate, licking the ring around your finger and pausing to take a gentle bite of the soft inner thigh while you slide your finger out.
You know that alternating penetration with a little bite distracts from discomfort and makes it easier to continue. You slide your finger out all the way and using both hands spread the ring gently and dive in with your tongue, massaging the ring with your fingers as your tongue presses firmly against the ring. With your tongue tip there, you slide first one fingertip then a second to just the first knuckle past the ring so your tongue can more easily wet the interior ring. Inhaling deeply and letting out a low moan, the shivers make your boy contract around your finger as you place deep kisses against his ring, teasing with your chin and flicking with your tongue. Sliding one finger in, still keeping the second tip at the ring your tongue slides up to lick the taint then back down as your finger slides back out until both are just inside the ring. You continue this until the ring relaxes and you slide the second finger in gently, along side the first into the slick opening that is now aching for much more.
You bite a little harder on a thigh then drag your tongue along the skin back to the ring as you slide two fingers gently back out. Slowly, patiently you continue alternating and combining techniques until your fingers slide without much resistance in and out. Then you know its time, and not just because your bottom is begging you loudly to fuck him, but because his ass is red, wet and aching, pulsing around your fingers. Then you slide up to kiss him, and brush the head of your cock against his hole.

The rest as they say is where nature takes over. Take your time enjoy teasing your bottom into a frenzy, and enjoy each other in as many ways as you can. Bon Appetite.