Daddy Knows Best: Chapter Three: The Art of the Moan.

What is a moan?

A moan is a sound that comes out almost always beyond your control. Language has fled, and all that is left is the primal sound of pleasure. It is a confirmation, reinforcement and compliment to your partner. These sounds, ideally, come from both partners involved but for different reasons. Porn, being made up of actors who want you to believe what’s going on is the hottest sex ever, gives you moans way too early to be real. They are more groans, which are preludes to a true moan, like foreplay often precedes sex. No real moan can be rushed, it must be slowly coaxed out, teased, touched and baited to come to the surface. Bringing out a true moan takes patience, practice and time.
A true moan is a noise in response to not only passion, but stimulation and most often the result of denial of those two things. A moan does not require direct sexual stimulation and can be achieved with many different tricks to bring it out. It is like a secret sound, unique to each boy, like their own private language. As a Daddy one of my greatest pleasures is to bring this sound out of hiding and out of my boy. Each way used to help them reach that sound creates different sounds. Pitch, intensity, duration, a very musical experience to the trained, or experienced, ear.
There are many different kinds of moan and I am going to talk about a few of them here, and how to find them. The ways are nearly universal so long as you learn your partner’s hot spots and where they are most sensitive, both physically and sometimes self-esteem related. The most effective can be those places where they feel ashamed or that they feel make them unattractive. Stretch marks, scars, birth marks and the like, are great places to focus for a while so long as your partner is not overly sensitive about them. Always respect personal limits, but try at least once, to push them further back. Tops AND Bottoms can profit from these lessons, so pay attention carefully, and don’t be afraid to check in with your partner, confirmation is a sign to proceed.

The Five Basic Moans:

The Foreplay Moan:
This moan is is found by using creative touch without having to be naked at all. By stimulating primary senses through foreplay you can bring your partner into full arousal and bring this moan out. Often quiet, strained and sometimes higher pitch, this moan indicates a level of stimulation beyond that which simply foreplay can bring out. This moan can be achieved by patient, slow touch of the skin on the lips, neck, head and ears. Using fingertips, lips and breath you stimulate the areas gently to see which causes movement, changes of breathing or a change in eye contact. Kissing gently is a good way to start, as is tracing your fingers along major muscles and veins in those areas.
By stimulating blood flow you increase sensitivity in your partner, making them more responsive and more likely to moan. After you identify the ‘hot spots’ in the upper torso (which are important as the more involved as many senses as possible are the more awakened and aroused the body is) proceed to use deeper kisses for a while then breathe gently across the moistened skin. The contrast between the touch of your lips, tongue or teeth and your breath becomes a tease that can electrify those areas. Biting, chewing and deeper kisses or sucking should be done only after you have warmed the areas and made them more receptive. These express passion, dominance and are usually welcomed after the areas are more sensitive. Some people however are very skittish about them, so use gently at first to test the waters and gauge their reactions accordingly. Lips, side of neck over jugular vein, front of throat, lobe of ear, and chin are good areas to attempt this stage on.
While doing this, be sure to use your hands to cradle neck, hold their head from behind or the sides to bring in for a deeper kiss. This is the ‘Overture’ moan, and with practice, patience and a little determination, helps to break the ice and make your partner more pliable for further activity. 
 
The Teasing Moan:
This comes after you’ve stimulated the neck/head area, aroused them to use their senses like touch, smell and taste. This moan is a much more intimate one, often requiring your partner to be naked at the very least, you too preferred as the sight/smell/warmth of your body helps bring this one out. Sliding your body along theirs slowly and gently, creating light friction and slipping against their nipples, and using yours to touch them in various spots. From the starting area you move down slowly, paying attention to several ‘off the beaten path’ areas, like the pectoral muscle that leads to the armpit, the side of the ribcage at top and bottom, above the belly button, above each hip bone along the soft tissue beneath the lower abdominals.
These areas are usually ignored, and respond VERY well to touch. Using not just your mouth or hands, inhale along the skin in very sensitive areas and exhale slowly. Use your breath to stimulate any body hair (not usually the armpit though some like that) gently, run your fingers through it and occasionally ‘claw’ them gently. Kiss areas that have scars as mentioned before. This intimate touch says “I want you for all that you are” and reaffirms their attractiveness to you in ways they may not expect. Your appreciation for them should be shown occasionally with a low murmur of approval, a groan (low and long) if you are genuinely turned on by what you are touching can work wonders and helps engage hearing in the game.
This moan should be achieved with extra patience, and WITHOUT directly stimulating genitals. Do not touch the penis, balls, taint or rectum. Instead chew, breathe on, kiss and rub the lower abdominals, the inside stretch of the legs from knee to the hip joint, the backs of knees, even ankles or feet. Explore your partner for every inch they have to offer and show them what turns them on by discovering it together. The cleft under the bottom (if they are face down) can be especially sensitive and should not be ignored if at all possible. Do not be afraid that you are ‘going too slowly’, that is the point of this exploration.
Take your time, go as slowly as you wish, and be sure to go slowly enough to bring out this kind of moan. It often comes with a tensing of the stomach, a flex of the legs upward, a grip on your shoulders or a biting of knuckles to restrain it. Don’t let them, bring it out, even if they want to hold it in. Your job is to help them learn to release their pleasure and not strangle it. When you receive this moan respond in your own way, confirming your pleasure and reassuring them that what you want is to make that happen for them.
A word of Caution here: Tickling can have very strong results both negative and positive, so be careful to NOT tickle often. Instead use stronger, deeper touch in those areas to avoid tickling unless they are stimulated by that, then alternate the deeper with the lighter touch.



The Fuck me Daddy Moan:
This moan comes from direct stimulation of certain parts of the body. In previous lessons I have described how to finger and rim your bottom, and this is the stage when you do those things. However there are a few things to point out here that go beyond those lessons. Now is when you concentrate your touch on the inner thigh where it joins the pelvic bone, touch the testicles, penis (foreskin gets treated separately here and comes before stimulating the rest if present). Take extra time along the stretch leading from the back of the balls down to the top of the ring before fingering and rimming.



The Holy shit that’s deep moan:
This moan is a little more primal, sometimes a gasp followed by the moan itself. Sometimes it is a high pitched whine or whimper, and other times it is a low deep almost growl. This comes from stimulating the prostate and internal areas slowly, inserting a little more over time. A gigantic thrust all at once can create this moan but should not be done upfront. That comes later, and should be avoided right now. Now is when you tease slowly, keeping the head sliding in and out of the ring first, for at least a few moments before pushing in one inch at a time until you hit the prostate. If you have learned to make your cock jump, pause at the prostate and tap it by making your cock jump against it. This works when they are face down or butt up.
The longer the stroke the more likely you are to get the moan because they become more aware of just how far in you are going. If you accomplished the previous moan, the length of your cock is almost irrelevant so long as you can hit the prostate. This one takes patience and time, but is well worth it, because when the moan comes, it is accompanied by movements and tension internally. These feel fantastic, so really take your time to earn this one. Once you have it, go for gold and start sliding in faster, but shallow at first, then deeper over time, but keeping the faster pace until you are bottoming out inside them. This usually brings a second ‘holy shit’ moan. Which is VERY satisfying. Be sure to reaffirm, touch base with your partner, and by ‘asking what they want’ you assert a little dominance, especially when you don’t jump and do it that second. Take a few moments before giving them what they want. Remember, delay of gratification is a major source of moans.

The Oh My God I need to Cum Moan:
This moan is one of the last I’ll talk about today. This one requires your partner to not be masturbating heavily during the last moan. This one is not, like the rest aren’t, required for good sex but it can bring things to a different ‘level’ in terms of moan and pleasure. This one is a denial or orgasm moan. If you have been patient, followed the lessons here, your partner should be damn near feral by this point. They not only want YOU to cum but they NEED to themselves. By restricting this for a while, you force them to deny their own pleasure (which often ENDS sex by the way so keep this one in mind if your partner cums then squeals for you to pull out, this helps keep them in the game for the full ride).When they beg you to cum, tell them things like ‘you aren’t half way done yet’ or ‘Not long now’ (depends on if your boy responds more to being told there is more work to do, or they have almost gotten you off). Either way, control your own urge to cum and keep from plowing them like a field before planting crops.
Don’t let up, but change tempo, slow things back to a tease when they beg to cum, tease them more with touch and biting but pull your own speed back at this point. When they being to writhe, moan like a banshee and claw the bed, THEN you bring your speed back up until they are bucking against you, aching for you to cum inside them. You can, if they behave and don’t start masturbating yet, reach for their cock and slowly stroke them for a bonus moan at this time. If you feel like its time for you to cum, and to really rock his world, this is when his orgasm can cause and amplify your own. Encourage them to cum, help them do it, or make them do it on your own. Be sure they know you want to FEEL their orgasm as you are deep inside them, their ass gripping down, milking that cum from your cock like a hungry mouth. Dirty talk is VERY common and often very effective at this point. Don’t be afraid to try it out, see what works, and let em have it. When they cum, allow yourself to join them, moan together or at different times but release your own pleasure into them, and accept theirs as a gift for you. You’ve done your job and brought out more noise and pleasure than they probably have ever experienced before. Well done.