Being a Good Boy: The Nine Rules.

The Nine Rules Good Boy's follow.

These are in no particular order, and these rules are expected to be followed by a Good boy, because Daddy follows them from the start.

Respect: You have the right to your feelings, to be sad or angry when those moments come, but at no time should 'angry words' that degrade, abuse or diminish the value of your Daddy be used. Physical violence in any form is absolutely forbidden, Daddy would never strike you no matter how angry he may get, so you should never ever let your anger dominate you instead of your love for Daddy. You respect who Daddy Is as a person, then your partner, THEN as Daddy. Words like "Sissy, Faggot, and Pussy" are used to degrade and punish, and should not be used about your self or your Daddy. The shortest road to being a "Bad Boy" is to degrade/disrespect yourself. Do not wallow in self pity, negative thoughts about yourself, or allow your self esteem to stop Daddy from loving you the way he wants to, and you need him to. Blame, when properly placed is fine, but do not constantly apologize for everything like you expect to be beaten if you don't.

Honor: Honor may sound similar to respect at first glance but it goes further and touches upon very special things. Honor is more about thoughts, feelings, wishes and desires both in public and private. In public, Daddy would not force you to display affection you might be uncomfortable with, and if you tell him so, he will honor that wish, just as you should honor his boundaries in public and private. Respect can be seen as understanding, where Honoring is obeying the limits that respect creates. By honoring and respecting your Daddy, just as he does you, you two mutually create the shape and scope of your relationship in and outside of the bedroom.

Submission: This is NOT how it sounds at first. A Good boy does submit but not in the 'usual' way. A good boy does not throw away his wants, needs, desires, free will, or person-hood in favor of Daddy's will. Quite the opposite. Those things are what made Daddy want you to be his son, why would he throw those away? Daddy gives you permission (when you ask for it) to explore your desires, dreams and fantasies together with his guidance and help to realize them. The only explicit domination Daddy exerts is his desire to have you 'ask' for permission, even if you know it will be granted, purely as a formality. The greatest gift is a boy's submission to the pleasure Daddy wishes to give him, and to his own desires to please Daddy. If we respect the roles we have accepted, and honor the limits we set for each other, and submit to mutually created lives, we become truer to ourselves and our innermost needs.

Companionship: A boy is a natural companion to his Daddy. Able to be by his side at any event, on any outing, or just together for no reason other than to be close. Be comfortable accompanying Daddy anytime he wishes. Listen to his stories, as he listens to yours. Ask about his Day, fill the empty places that a partner would fill, but go further and fill that space set aside for a son and companion. It is the place he wishes you to be in, and one you belong in. Take the time to be supportive of his efforts, respect his need to work and his space (if any is needed or required). Always be the good companion, there to accept his attention, affection and the time he wishes to spend with you.

Passion: Daddy has already given you permission to be the passionate, sexual creature you are meant to be. Do not restrain or deny this side of yourself, unless it violates other rules listed here or created between you and your Daddy. You would not want him to be cool all the time in bed, or in foreplay for him to be unresponsive, so do not be that way to him.

Affection: Express your affection in every way possible. This shows your appreciation for all that Daddy is and does for you and with you. Kiss your Daddy as often as he and you are comfortable. This is your chance to demonstrate you appreciate him, find creative ways to do so beyond sex. Sex is only one way to appreciate you Daddy. Hold hands, cuddle with him in bed, snuggle on the couch watching movies together, sit next to him at mealtime, smile as often as you can at him. Express your love without words as often as possible. Use the language of love even more so.

Caring: When your Daddy is having a 'bad day', feels sad, or upset, or even angry at something, do your best to be supportive of him without being oppressive or denying him the right to have his feelings. He would not want you to be sad for long, but understands the need for such feelings and does his best to make you feel better. As you should for him as often as you can. It is part of being a loving, good boy to care for your Daddy's well being, happiness and comfort.

Love: This is a simple rule. Love your Daddy. Do not simply obey, submit and be a toy for his pleasure. Truly love him as he loves you. A Daddy holds you in a special place in his heart, as you should with him. Discover together how your love manifests between you both.

Commitment: This is the bond of trust.It means being true and faithful to your Daddy, as he should be to you. In this age it especially means no side play with others without the consent or sharing with each other at the same time. Commitment is as important to keep as the love you share. If the Love is broken, the relationship can heal over time or end. If the commitment, the trust, is broken then there may be no real return to what you had before. Trust may be given at the start, but you must continue to earn it and remain committed to what you have gained or you risk its complete destruction. There cannot be casual infractions of commitment for a son or a Daddy, as it breaks the relationship in a way that throws its entire value into question.

First Time with Daddy.

I seem to talk to a large number of virgin boys who ask the same question. “What would that first time be like with you Daddy”? I wrote this in response to that very question some time ago but but the method is tried and true. I have done this many times before.This is no simple matter, and cannot be rushed. I don’t believe in doing anything halfway and a first time (even when its not a virgin, the first time with “Daddy” should always be special) is something to be treated with care. I also do not believe in ‘one night stands, as the saying goes: What begins wet, ends wet. Sex with me can only happen with a genuine connection, trust and caring between us and only at the right time. After dating and regular communication for some time there would be a decision to spend a solid weekend together all of this would be explained ahead of time to the boy so there was no confusion and we could keep each other from misbehaving.  So here goes with the answer (which, like all of my stories is based in fact, not fiction).

The Ideal First Time With Daddy:

The first night:
I would explain very carefully that at ANY time and for any reason you wished, if you felt uncomfortable or unready, things could stop advancing or stop entirely at your discretion. The power to leave would remain in your hands at any time and that at no time was i placing expectations on you or our relationship in anyway.
You would meet me for dinner at my place. This would not be our first visit together, so you wouldn’t be entirely uncomfortable with me making you dinner.We would talk about anything and everything that came to mind, i would probably prepare something special for you to eat (nothing drugged or anything else since it would offend me to waste good food like that) just something i dont make often but shows i took the time and cared to make a special meal for you.The offer would be made to spend the night, reaffirming that there are no expectations of sex just continued time shared. If you wanted to stay but not share my bed, there would be a couch and we could continue talking in the morning. The choice would, at all stages, remain yours. If you chose the couch, i’d let you settle in and head to bed myself without reproach. If you chose to leave, the same would be true, and not affect our relationship. Should you choose to cuddle and share my bed with me, you would be allowed, even welcomed to do so without ANY pressure to have sex. We could talk until you fell asleep, and if you wished you could either sleep beside me, or in my arms curled up against me. The only thing OFF the menu the first night at all is sexual activity. Kissing, cuddling, holding hands, perhaps some massage or light touching is permitted. The point of this is that on the first night BOTH of us agree to respect each others wish to not have sex, and control ourselves. As much touch, kissing and cuddling as you wish without paying ANY attention to any growing erection.

The first day:
If you haven’t left or changed your mind, and wish to, you could join me in the shower where we could bathe eac hother, exploring each others bodies, again with ZERO pressure toward sex as sex would still be off the agenda until much later on.This is entirely about becoming comfortable, sensuality and freedom without any pressure. After either showering together or separately, I would make us breakfast, and we would continue talking, sharing stories and getting to know each other more deeply. After breakfast, we would most likely go for a walk, perhaps to a mall or somewhere public to walk and talk and spend time away from my place fora  while. We would talk, walk, spend as much time as we can getting close, developing trust and connection. This would continue until dinner again at my place. We may return there at some point before dinner, talk while making the meal and if all has gone well, i may be planning a special surprise.
The Second Night:

The special surprise would be a batch of home made chocolate ganache, whose special nature is that it slowly melts at slightly warmer than normal body temperature. This night would be about more thorough exploration of what pleases each other, again without the drive to have sex but especially not to 'orgasm’. This means foreplay, touching, exploring our bodies together, growing comfortable with them and while touching genitals IS permitted at this point, its only to feel safe with each other. It is NOT about sexual activity, purely sensual, all about discovering what turns the other on. To that end, i would have you lay on your back and close your eyes. With the still warm chocolate i would draw patterns on your skin, learning where your body curves, where it tickles you to touch and where it grows warm when i touch. The chocolate forms a 'map’ of where your body reacts and how to touch. As always you can call everything off without reproach.
I would, given my way, spend an hour or so just touching, drawing patterns on your skin, and then slowly, methodically exploring your skin. Breath, touch, lick and bite, to know where each part of you responds best and ultimately making sure that you were clean before I had you roll over and repeated the process on your back. This does NOT include the genitals directly nor the anus itself. Everywhere else is fair game, as this to me is the preliminary round of hunting down where your moan hides. Since you are the virgin here, I would ask that you keep your hands behind your head and simply relax and submit to what I wish to show you, knowing that i would not harm you and wish to show you pleasure. After I am finished, we will talk about what you liked best, what turned you on and what you didn’t like. You are in no way expected to do anything at all in return, simply to relax and enjoy how your body feels now. I might encourage you to cuddle and relax while we talk.

The second day:
If by this point you are still here, and not completely insane, we may wake and being the day by kissing, touching and laying together talking. When we BOTH feel the time is right, we can either begin the day with a shower and breakfast, or stay in bed and continue the previous nights activities, perhaps goingi further. If we both feel safe, comfortable and desire more, this morning would be the time we could try things like masterbation, perhaps oral sex, but anal would still be off the menu just yet. By now, the need for SOME kind of release should no longer be ignored, so its good to get out of the way if needed in the morning. Always, stop or start, go or retreat, entirely up to you and i as well. If im uncomfortable i would expect the same respect i give you and allow things to stop. After the morning shower, we would repeat, breakfast, walking, lunch, more wandering or talking somewhere, and home for dinner.

The third night:
If you choose to join me in bed, and feel like you want to go further, we would explore a bit further, perhaps to rimming and fingering and continue to enjoy as much as we can without crossing that final line just yet. Its so easy to rush, but taking the time makes the reward so much greater. SO we could repeat the mornings activities with a little extra but not going too much further. more sensuality, massage, gentle touch and deep kisses letting that final piece of passion stay off in the wings for now.

The third day:
Depending on how things have gone, what we’ve talked about, you will probably awaken on the third day in my arms, with my hand running along your skin as i watch you sleep. When i see you start to wake up, i would pull you up to me and give you a slow, deep kiss. From there if the desire is present, i would rim you gently, finger you slowly for about half an hour or so, taking my time and taking breaks to kiss you and awaken other parts of your body as well, but not your penis directly because this isn't about that. its about opening you up gently and  getting your BODY to want me inside you. To that end, would have you lay on your back, with your legs over my hips as i slide up to kiss you gently, firmly pressing the head of my cock against your ring. I would not push forward, but instead i would begin kissing and chewing your neck, and as you move around the head would VERY slowly begin sliding in. There would be NO pressure forward, but i would not retreat unless you were in pain.
Once the tip was inside the ring,without the whole head in, I would let you take control (but SLOW any movement down so there were not accidental rapid insertions which would cause pain). My goal here is to MAXIMIZE your pleasure from feeling me inside you, not me getting off this time. We would continue like this, slowly, carefully and methodically until you were comfortable at each step, pausing to return to rimming and fingering if needed, adding more lube/spit as needed and never rushing for a moment.I can stop and will at a moments notice, to remain still OR pull out. We will continue like this until you’ve gotten as much of me in as i feel is needed and that's when things slowly start to happen. Nothing rough or fast the first time, just allowing you to feel how your body reacts to me being inside. However long it takes, I can wait patiently for you to be ready. When you are, you will most likely wish to direct the activity, but i will still restrict speed a little to prevent you from getting hurt.When you are ready you will have no problem opening up, accepting me inside you and submitting to the pleasure we are going to share together. Without getting into the more 'graphic’ details you now have an idea of what the 'first time’ with me would be like.

This is, in a nutshell, how I spent the first night with my son. We set aside a weekend to be together with one major rule: no one was obligated to go any further than they wanted and could leave without reproach for any reason. Complete comfort, relaxation and languid sensuality were the atmosphere I wanted to create so we spent the weekend exploring each other inside and out. It was an exercise, a test, in self control on both our parts and those first two nights were hellish torture for both of us, but by the third night we both had gone as far as sanity would permit. The rest as they say, came as naturally as feeling warm in summer.

How I met my son.

A few days after my 30th birthday he and I started talking because of his one line ad on yahoo personals. I'd responded to begin with because it was just that sort of 'I need someone to talk to because I feel alone' sort of thing. We talked for a few days and his initial shyness (as it turns out other 'daddies' had talked to him before me but they were exactly why I use the lower d in some cases) began to fade and his personality started to shine through. I got a picture of a sweet, goodhearted person who just needed to feel less lonely. I'd been in a good place where I didn't need to find someone and was OK being alone, so I was comfortable just talking with him. No picture trading, not even faces for quite a while after we started talking. So we really did begin to fall in love with the minds on the other side of the email, the voice on the phone and the way we made each other feel. We were very open and honest from the start and decided to not to see each other at all for a few months even though he was only an hour from where I lived. We spoke or emailed every day for quite a while before we set a date to finally meet,by then we had shared our faces so we'd know who to look for when we did meet but even then we'd already set rules. No matter how we felt, sex was off the table our first date. I agreed but with one caveat, I promised to give him a kiss when I saw him. I don't think he believed I would.

I was going to meet him at a store in his town (i chose it so he could bail and be close to home or not far from people he might know. I wanted him to feel safe and being close to home meant a better chance of that) but neither of us realized that store was closed the day we were going to meet. Nearby there was a shop so I browsed while I waited until the time we were supposed to meet because I was very early (I was nervous).  I caught something out of the corner of my eye and glanced at the window to see the back of a head walking by. Somehow I was absolutely positive it was him. I went out the front door but he was moving a long at a good clip, looking for me. I called out his name, but it was a main street row of stores so there were people talking and he didn't hear me. I picked up the pace and called out a few more times but he stayed just out of range and at a certain point, I began to think I'd been wrong. I tried one more time and he stopped but didn't turn around. So I stopped and repeated his name. He turned around and I could see on his face that he was nervous. Once he saw me, that faded and was replaced by a big smile and I knew I'd found the right person. I think we both expected the usual, that we'd sent old pictures and looked different now. Neither of us had, otherwise we might not have recognized each other at all, but it was my voice that made him turn around.

I walked up and before we could say anything more than hello I stepped in and said "if it's OK with you, I'd like to keep my promise now." He smiled and nodded which was all I needed. I wrapped one arm around him, putting my palm in the small of his back and the other hand rested behind his neck and I leaned him back a little and gave him a long slow kiss. It felt like I'd been waiting years to do that. He blushed, looked halfway between fainting and being in bliss, so I didn't let him go just yet. We stayed there for a minute or two before having to shaking off that moment even though neither of us wanted to. We'd set plans for what we wanted to do, but it was clear both of us regretted setting a time limit on how long our first 'date' would last. We walked for quite a while, talking, holding hands when alone because for some reason after that kiss we'd suddenly gotten cautious about being affectionate in public. After that Hollywood kiss, I can't imagine drawing more attention by holding hands, but in that moment that's how we played out the date.

We spent time on the waterfront, enjoying the view of the bay and it really wasn't until that moment, when we'd been walking for an hour, that it finally set in that it was the coldest part of winter and we should have been freezing. Neither of us were remotely cold, but we had planned to have an early lunch so we set off to get something to eat. Sitting there, neither of us could concentrate on ordering so we sat and talked.The occasional hand grab across the table, the quiet smiles and more than occasional blushing were great excuses to not care about eating. We did eventually eat then went back out to walk for a while longer before parting ways. It was probably the hardest thing I had to do to be 'responsible' and keep my word, but we made plans to see each other again soon and in the in between time we called and wrote daily. We kept contact, never let go and somewhere between the day we started talking and our second date, "I love you" had come into the conversation and quickly became something we said all the time. 

The next ten years (almost 11 now) everyday has ended the same way. The last thing we say before sleeping is some variation of I love you to each other. Neither of us can sleep without saying it anymore. If he sleeps before me, I snuggle close and whisper it in his ear. That's how it was and how it still is. Reality is never so fairy tale, and there have been ups and downs and some pretty hard heartbreaks over the years, but even when things are bad, we never go to bed angry and end the day the same way we always have by saying  "I love you.".  

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 7: The Big Finish.

Here we cum at last to the end of these basic lessons. What better way to wrap things up than some activities to do with the results of your hard work. That’s right boys, how to play with cum and to enjoy just how messy you get from good sex. Ultimately, good sex should not be a dry experience, you should get sticky, sweaty and have a great time doing it. So why stop after you’ve gotten that load out of Daddy? Here are some basic things you can do to have fun with cum.

The Facial Cream:

Did you know that for many years, a secret to good skin was the proteins found in semen? Don’t be afraid to get it on your skin, it can help with acne, scarring and lines. Seriously, its probably the best thing out there for your face, and thanks to Daddy you have some on tap. This doesn’t mean you should wallow in it unless he likes that. What it means is if he wipes off your lips, embrace that and enjoy the facials he gives you (they really are called that for a reason). If he doesn’t mind, scoop some and dab it where you have something you want to help fix and let dry. Remembering of course to listen to Daddy. He may even appreciate how much you enjoy playing in the cum. Give it a try the next time you get a load in the face.

The Body Shot:

When Daddy pulls out to shoot on your chest, don’t be afraid to use some to lubricate your own cock, or just smear it around to cover yourself in the sticky goo. It’s a sign of his affection and love, don’t waste it if he wants you to scoop it and eat it. Get it while its hot!

The Back Door Ringer:

This one is an internal shot, and should be kept where Daddy left it by closing your ring and holding on to it tightly. If he tells you to let it run out, relax and push out gently allowing it to flow out. The feeling can be quite nice having Daddy’s load sloshing around inside your hole, so enjoy it and let him know how much you appreciate it. It’s usually a good time to ask ‘was i a good boy daddy’ at times like this.

The Back Wash:

This one is when you are laying down, and Daddy pulls out to cover your back. Arch your back to help it flow downward towards Daddy and ask him to spread it around on your bottom. Yes, some Daddy’s really do love a ‘dirty boy’ especially one that isn’t afraid to ask for something like this. You may even ask him to scoop some up to feed you from his fingers.
Pretty simple no? The point of these lessons is to loosen inhibitions, encourage closeness and the freedom to play as dirty as you like. At the end here with the big finish is the perfect time to show that off a little.
Addendum: There are a few things to point out toward the end here. Since we live in this age, the assumption in this work is that you practice safe sex at all times, unless in a committed relationship where both of you are tested and safe together. Even so, the big finish works with the body shot and back wash tricks. Always play safe, check in, and remember: Enjoy the sex you have with your Daddy. Make sure he knows how much you enjoy yourself and do NOT be afraid to experiment with him and try new things. The worst that happens is you ditch a trick, the best is you’ve learned something that really turns him on and keep it in your tool box of tricks. Now, go be a good boy and show Daddy what you learned.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 6: Using your Bottom to please Daddy Part 2: Getting your Groove on.

Now to move on to more specific techniques using just your bottom, as well as some basic position elements to maximize your pleasure as well as your partners as well as how and where to use your hands. These techniques are largely yours, as the son, to use to please Daddy. The techniques for Daddy are different, or they might seem silly or confusing when done by him, so remember boys these hints are for you. The first rule is always check in and ask what each other prefers, some Daddy’s like their boy to be passive most of the time, others prefer their boys to be more active when it comes to getting fucked, and still others prefer to vary it from time to time, so be ready to adapt as needed.
A good rule is this: A Great Bottom never just lays there. A great bottom knows how to move, even internally when instructed to, to increase the pleasure they are sharing with Daddy.
The Tempting Tease.

This is away to ‘hint’ that you want Daddy inside you. It is a foreplay element, but can be done at any point as a nice tease for Daddy. This is often seen in porn, when they are on all fours, reach back and spread their cheeks a little and either wiggle their butt back and forth a little or contract and relax their ring so it ‘winks’ at Daddy. This isn’t something to do ALL the time, but can be a nice tempting treat for Daddy to watch. It can, and does, often lead to fingering/rimming before any penetration occurs. Sometimes however, depending on preferences for sex, might lead directly to penetration, so be careful when and how you use it. It’s simple but very effective in attracting attention (unless Daddy teases you back and doesn’t pay attention to it).
The Ring Toss:
This technique involves either being on all fours or positioned over your Daddy’s cock. This is a gentle, slow insertion until you have the head inside your ring. If you’ve read the previous instructions regarding muscle controls, you will then tighten your sphincter around the head and being a circular rotation, riding it halfway out then back in to that top depth. This is a definite tease technique with a promise of much more. By controlling your muscles, the penetration depth and how you move, you demonstrate your ability and desire to please your Daddy as much as possible. This position can be tiring after a while so rather than a constant pressure, alternate relaxing around the head and tightening it at different points in your rotations. This is not, repeat not a light fucking motion, it is a circular rotation around the head with a slight up and down motion that happens naturally because of the motion you are using. When all fours, this position offers the same control, but requires you rotate your hips a little more to control the penetration and rotation.
The Downward spiral thrust:
This technique involves more of Daddy’s cock than the previous, and you can use this one to get most if not all of it in fairly easily. By continuing the rotation of the previous action, you being slowly pushing back (or down depending on position) and take more and more slowly as you rotate. This increases your own stimulation and his. You may wish (if doggy style) to reach back and spread your cheeks slightly to increase the tightness of the ring, but as you approach the bottom of the shaft, let go and allow yourself to slowly go down further until you are flush against him continuing to grind gentle there, working his shaft inside you by tightening and relaxing your pelvic wall.
The Percussive thrust.
Once you have relaxed and gotten used to having all of Daddy in you, you may begin going back up to the top slowly while tensing and relaxing your muscles as you go. Once you reach the top the trip back down should be faster, and a little harder as this goes on longer. Initially, go slowly back down and massage Daddy inside you. Ask him if he wants you to go faster or harder and do as he asks. He may at any time take control, so be ready to adapt as always. If he says continue, begin moving harder against him, and if he is a ball slapping Daddy, eventually you will be slamming yourself back onto him with a percussive SMACK on each downward impact. The withdrawal to the top should remain slower,  as this lets you both feel the journey out and gives you time to work your magic as a bottom. You may at any time choose to rotate again after giving yourself and Daddy a break, but my advice is only rotate on the slow upward movement.
The Cowboy/Reverse Cowboy:

This is done while on top of Daddy, fully inserted either facing him or away from him (hence reverse cowboy). The name not only comes from the fact you are ‘riding the bull by the horn’ but also because of what you are meant to do while on top. Keep your back straight up in Cowboy position facing daddy and roll your hips from left to right while grinding back and forth occasionally. This is a deep stroke as well as one involving a ‘bucking bronco’ movement where you rise up slightly, and slide back down quickly. Alternate which you do, keep it moving and keep your energy up. This is a workout and should also be fun. Check in when trying different things until you have a feel for what pleases Daddy most.
The Rocket Ship:

This position required your Daddy to be sitting up, and you seated facing away from him. Here you will have his arms around your chest/stomach/hips like the belt in a rocket ship and you will be kneeling in front of him, his cock inserted full at first. You will then being rising and falling slowly getting faster and faster as you feel Daddy’s tension building. At anytime feel free to toss in contractions and rotations from previous techniques. It can’t hurt to try unless you are rough about it. The opposite requires different actions on your part to make work and usually Daddy has to take control then to keep you in place and provide most of the action while you balance so we will skip that variation for now.
Remember: There are standing variations on all of these strokes as well, so you can try them in different positions too. The Cowboy works wonders when Daddy is sitting in a chair because you can brace yourself.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 6: Using your Bottom to please Daddy Part 1.

Part 1: Getting ready to play.

Anal Sex.
Butt lovin, tube shovin, shaft stroking backdoor sex. There are no doubt many questions that should be addressed when talking about the ‘bottom’ of the sex list. There are some major issues already addressed in previous lessons (like cleanliness etc) but there are a few to bring up here that stand out at this point. The issues of Shaved/Unshaven, of virginity/inexperience and of being ‘too tight’. These issues are frequent questions, and deserve to be addressed separately before we get to the actual tips and tricks.
Shaved Vs Unshaven: This is one question of personal taste, not only for the son but for his Daddy too. There are many reasons why either one could be preferred, but there are some things to consider when shaving your butt. First of which, the best way to go about it is to have help. It’s not only an intimate trusting moment, but can be very arousing for both people involved. That said, shaved provides no protection there (its normally hairy for a reason) and the hair can cushion impact and keep you a bit warmer there. Shaved has the downside of it grows back and those stubble phases are usually not only painful for you but also your Daddy, so you have to either keep up with it or give up having that kind of sex for a while as it grows back in. A shaved boy can be nice because its slick and slippery, but an unshaven one provides almost the exact same sensation and none of the downtime of regrowing stubble. It is easier to rim a shaven bottom, but only to a certain degree. Some of us prefer the feeling of chewing a fuzzy butt to a smooth one, others the reverse. So it comes down to you and your Daddy deciding what is best for you. Either way requires cleanliness and maintenance in one form or another so it does ultimately come down to personal taste.
Virginity/Inexperience: The ‘V’ card. So mystified and sanctified that it becomes a crucial part of a boys psyche. Lets take a moment to break this down into clear and concise terms. Virginity is a concept that really originated when a girls virginity was the only value she had, because without it she could not be bartered for property to a neighbor or enemy to form an alliance. Being ‘the first’ is an antiquated concept at best, vulgar at the worst. If the only value someone has for you is being their first partner, then you may have other issues to deal with. If you believe, as a boy, that your virginity is the only thing you have of value to offer a partner, then you are dead wrong. Your first time cannot be lost by being raped or molested. The first time you have sex with someone of your choosing it truly is your first time, and not any other occasion. The very first time you and your Daddy make love will always be special, and often change how you feel about sex. Take the stigma out of virginity, because it simply means your Daddy has a whole lot he can teach you, not the least of which is that you are valuable without it as well as with it. Human value should never be assessed based on  a ‘status’ like Virginity because it can be ‘lost’ without meaning to, just ask a girl. Virginity for them involves a membrane that can break from riding a horse, bouncing in a car too hard, getting hit in the groin, and without it their value is diminished, and in some cultures utterly removed because her ‘character’ can be questioned because of its absence. Boys being judged by the same measures as girls is absurd, let alone being emotionally and psychologically traumatized by the change of status from virgin to not. We, as a species, need to get over this and learn to disregard rules that do not apply, like virginity, especially when it comes to gay boys. Your inexperience, as said before, is not a detriment if you allow your Daddy to show you how and are patient and determined in your ‘lessons’ from him.
Too Tight to Fuck: Well, this one is tricky. I’ve known many who were very tight but with application of the previous lessons, should have no trouble relaxing and being able to accept what is happening back there. There may also be certain psychological concerns when dealing with being ‘too tight’ because you may be resisting it because you expect too much pain or are attempting to prevent the very thing you are wanting to happen. This can be resolved however with relaxation, massage, breathing, meditation, and a little practice. If its easy for you, a single finger (pinkie to start) and just sit there for a while. Breathe slowly, relax then being moving the finger in small circles. If that is not possible, then purchase a very small thing masturbatory tool like a butt plug or a dildo. Do NOT force these things in, relax, start small and work your way up once you are comfortable using them. Slowly increase the diameter and length until you are at least working something the size of two to three fingers put together and the length of 5-6 inches. That should be enough to help prepare yourself for anything that size or slightly bigger.

The Basics:
From previous anatomy lessons you and your Daddy should know where different parts are, so rather than covering them again, I will assume you did your homework and learned where they were. Cheeks, Rim/Ring and prostate are the three big ones for your pleasure as a bottom, but also for pleasing your Daddy. I will cover some exercises  you can do (two simple ones have huge effects on various parts of your soft muscle groups that control erection and tightness, and can amplify pleasure) and a few basic considerations before attempting anal sex.

First Up: Pelvic Floor Muscle Training. (source http://www.everybody.co.nz )

How do I know what muscles to tighten?

The first step is to correctly identify the muscles. Sit comfortably - your thighs, buttocks and tummy muscles should be relaxed. Lift and squeeze inside as if you are trying to hold back urine, or wind from the back passage. This may be easiest to actually use the muscles for real by taking a shower and practicing being able to focus on just that specific muscle. It takes practice and you shouldn't hold a stream for too long, so the shower part is just to identify which to tighten. After that, practice it dry and anywhere you find the time.

If you are unable to feel a definite squeeze and lift action of your pelvic floor, don’t worry. Even people with very weak muscles can be taught these exercises.

If you feel unsure whether you have identified the correct muscles, try to stop your flow when passing urine, then restart it. Only do this to identify the correct muscles to use - this is a test, NOT an exercise.

If you are unable to feel a definite tighten and lift action in your pelvic floor muscles you should seek professional advice.

How do I start pelvic floor muscle training program?

At first you may need to perform these exercises while sitting. As the muscles strengthen you can progress to exercise standing up. Like any activity, start with what you can achieve and progress from there. Remember to use your muscles whenever you exert yourself during your daily activities.

If you can feel the muscles working, exercise them by:

1. Squeezing/ tightening and drawing in and up around both your anus (back passage) and urethra (bladder outlet). Lift up inside and try to hold this contraction strongly for as long as you can (1 - 10 seconds). Keep breathing! Now release and relax. You should have a definite feeling of letting go.

2. Rest 10 - 20 seconds - repeat Step 1, and remember it is important to rest. If you find it easy to hold, try to hold longer and repeat as many as you are able. Work towards 12 long, strong holds.

3. Now try 5 - 10 short, fast strong contractions.

do NOT hold your breath

do NOT push down instead of squeeze and lift

do NOT pull your tummy in tightly

do NOT tighten your buttocks and thighs.

Try to set aside 5 - 10 minutes in your day for this exercise routine, and remember, quality is important. A few good contractions are more beneficial than many half-hearted ones and good results take time and effort. Remember to use the muscles when you need them most. That is, always tighten before you cough, sneeze, lift, bend, get up out of a chair, etc.Now that we have covered how the exercises are done here are some reasons why you want to do them regularly. These exercises have additional benefits for men, like being able to sustain an erection for longer, improving your ejaculation/orgasm contractions, helping with bowel control and regularity and so on. The benefits of these should make them a must have for a daily health routine.

Practicing this control method and strengthening your pelvic wall allows you to contract around your partner and with practice create a wavelike motion of muscle around them while they are inside you. The famous ‘snapping pussy’ trick involves the use of these little understood muscles. They are a Good boys best friend and a Daddy’s favorite glove to slip into. Before attempting anal sex for the first time or if inexperienced, be sure to check in with your partner as you go along. Be sure it is something you both want to do, and are both willing to be patient at the start while things become loose enough for full penetration.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 5: Using Your Mouth to Please Daddy.

Oral Sex.
 
Sounds clinical doesn’t it? Sucking Daddy’s cock tends to turn boys on more as a way to describe it, so that’s what we will use. This guide is all about some basic tips and tricks for sucking Daddy’s cock well. This can and should include previous lessons as these are all meant to build one on top of the other, so feel free to add in anything and everything you’ve learned from previous lessons. Sometimes a finger really can spice things up a bit for Daddy, see if he minds if you try things out on him and go from there. For now however, there are a few basic parts used to cover and things to do with them.
(pro-tip: moaning in pleasure around Daddy’s cock is a serious bonus, but don’t over use it.)

Lips:
These are your first tool, and among the best at your disposal when used properly. The sensation of lips on Daddy’s cock can be a real turn on, so don’t be afraid to kiss the head, shaft, foreskin or any other part. Kisses feel nice just about anywhere. They can be used instead of a hand to slide back and forth across the head and shaft with or without suction or anything else. They can be kept close together to form a ring to tighten the feeling on Daddy’s cock or kept apart for when you want to slip down without him feeling it being in your mouth until the head hits the back of your throat. The surprise sensation can be very enjoyable.

Teeth:
Teeth get a bad wrap when it comes to oral sex. Most of the time it’s best to keep them away from the action by keeping your lips over them but they do have their uses. A little chew, nibble or drag of teeth along the sensitive skin can be very nice contrast to the soft,warm wetness of your mouth on Daddy’s cock. As always, check in and see what he thinks about what you are doing, and ask permission to try something first.

Tongue:
The tongue is VERY useful during oral sex. It is not always the best advice to keep it down and leave it there. In fact, the most skillful boys know that the tongue when swirled around gently over the tip or pressed up along the underside as Daddy’s cock goes into their mouth can bring great pleasure. Licking is extremely good, as is kissing, anywhere on Daddy’s cock. The more you show your adoration of Daddy’s cock the better. Lick it from top to bottom, lick the head, and balls, anywhere your tongue wants to go, let it. Most Daddy’s wouldn’t stop you from tonguing them thoroughly before using your hand or as prelude to trying something like deep throat or before fucking.

Suction:
This key staple of oral sex is often used improperly. Sucking can be done anywhere, just like licking and should be. Gentle suction or strong suction depending on preference and what you are doing can maximize the effectiveness of your ability to suck Daddy’s cock to orgasm. That said however, do not always use suction or even the same amount, vary your approach until you learn what makes him moan. Then keep it that way. Only slow down or throttle back the suction if you want to prolong the session, which is a good way to get Daddy to moan, but may irritate him. Check in, as always (and yes I will keep repeating this since so many boys forget this part).

Throat:
The depth of your ability to love your Daddy’s cock. This place isn’t easy to train or to relax, but takes practice, patience and gentle guidance. Getting Daddy to be all the way in can be very taxing at first, but after time invested, becomes very rewarding. Not only is it good to push the head into the back of your throat once in a while, with enough practice you can STAY there an tighten your throat around the head and shaft while using your tongue and lips to provide suction and movement. Done well, using your throat is a talent not just another hole to slam a load into. Anyone can sit there and get throat fucked, but a Good boy can use Daddy’s cock like that without Daddy having to move. Now on to some specific tricks of the trade.

Nursing:
This is as simple as it sounds. Gentle suction, lips doing most of the work. Pull the tip into your lips using suction then work the head between your lips back and forth using pull and push from suction and exhale. Done slowly and patiently this can be a very pleasant and relaxing way to show Daddy you want to please him. Nursing is not very taxing and can be done when you need a break from more strenuous activity WITHOUT breaking contact with Daddy’s cock. That should be a goal, if your mouth can’t handle it, use your hands and keep contact at all times unless told otherwise. Try to not suck too hard and resist the urge to dive further down. This is a perfect spot to look at Daddy and ask permission to go further without speaking. If you have to, try to not break contact. It can be a serious turn on to have a boy refuse to let go of your cock but still have to talk to you.

Tongue Rolling:
For this, your mouth should be slightly open, and no suction or lip action involved. You simply roll your tongue lifting and caressing the head and some of the shaft when you flick your tongue down out of your mouth. Swirl your tongue around the head slowly, you want Daddy to feel what you are doing and to see how patient you are being, waiting for him to encourage you to go further and to see he is enjoying what you are doing. This can be used as alternation to nursing where you pull a little in to lick then start nursing again.

The ‘sucking in’: This is almost entirely suction. No tongue, lips form the seal and keep gentle pressure as things slide inward. Don’t be afraid to ‘slurp’ or let the suction ‘pop’ at certain times, the change can be thrilling. This is a fun way to bring Daddy further in for the tongue to nurse trick. Suck gently and begin pulling Daddy’s cock into your mouth slowly sliding backward along your tongue. This can also be done as prelude to the Bobbing for Daddy Apples technique.

Bobbing for Daddy Apples:
What more needs to be said of this technique really? Your lips form the ring that slides down from the tip to midway down the shaft and with gentle suction and tongue pressure slide up and down the shaft. For variation you can go down without touching (or suction/tongue action) then start at the lower end of the stroke to suck and lick your way back up or vice versa. You can let your Daddy set the tempo or if he is letting you work, you control how fast or slow the motion is. My advice: don’t rush this. This is your chance to shine, let Daddy see how much you want to do this.

The Long Stroke:
This is a patient and slow variation of the Bobbing technique which can be done at varying speeds. This also combines a hand or two as needed at the base or if using both, at the middle of the shaft. The base hand as before holds the shaft in place, and the middle hand slides up and down. The difference is that now your lips are against the ring your hand makes and you are sucking and tonguing, keeping your lips against your hand. A light to medium grip with the hand and light or medium suction should be all you need with a long slow stroke to make your Daddy groan in pleasure.

Deep Throat:
This is not the be all and end all of oral sex techniques. It is fantastic and a skill worth having to be sure, but not every stroke needs to be buried to the base in the back of your throat. You skip every other part if you rush to the back. Swallowing hard can help pull the head past resistance at the back of your throat. Keeping your tongue down and teeth covered by your lips to ensure you don’t drag when doing this. Deep throat really does take practice and guidance. With your Daddy’s help and sufficient practice you will learn when to breathe, when to swallow hard and when to relax and let Daddy move in and out of the back of your throat.

Tonguing the balls:
This I include mostly as a ‘taunt’ to those who are good at Deep throat. There is more that you can do. One final mind blowing trick. When you reach that last inch, with your face buried against Daddy’s crotch, nuzzling his hair, you can slide your tongue out. When you do either bring his balls up or if your tongue is long enough just start licking around under the base of his cock. If you can bring his balls up, lick them for a few moments before sliding back to catch your breath.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 4: Using Your Hands to Please Daddy.

This is one of the most basic thing a boy learns to do to himself at an early age. As soon as you discover your penis feels good, you learn to touch it in ways that feel good. This is what we are going to discuss in this next installment of the boy’s guide. This part will focus on how to use the previous lessons together to bring your Daddy pleasure using just your hands, and will touch on a few basic techniques using one or both hands in different places. Be sure to ask for guidance from Daddy, especially if you are inexperienced. The tempo, grip and lubrication choices should be at his direction, or if he wants you to experiment, use your best judgment but seek confirmation and approval of the technique you try. Be mindful of what your face is doing while you are pleasing Daddy, and be sure to show your appreciation for what you are doing as well as what you are doing it to. This is a primer only, and will cover 4 simple techniques with a few pointers to make them more effective.

The one handed rising stroke:

This simple technique uses light to medium grip, sliding up the length of the shaft from base to tip of head, then the hand opens to return to the base and slowly ‘milk’ the blood flow upward. The is a single direction movement, you don’t stroke downward using this technique. It is best if the shaft and head, as well as your hand, are slick with spit or a combination of spit and precum if your Daddy leaks. This is a teasing stroke, to bring more blood into the shaft and head. It can be done with your hand from between his legs pulling the shaft toward your mouth as a tease, or reaching down and slowly sliding up if you are above his penis (in a sixty nine position). This increases pleasure for later techniques but isn’t always needed. It is a nice ‘tease’ when drawn toward your mouth, or just to maintain contact without rushing to the orgasm.

The ole one handed up and down stroke:

This can be done slick or dry depending on what your Daddy likes and if he is cut or uncut. Sometimes that doesn’t matter here if he leaks a lot of precum, as it will get lubricated anyway. A medium firm grip sliding slowly up and down the shaft is all that is needed here. For a loosely uncut Daddy, the feeling of sliding the skin back can be very pleasurable, so placing your hand just above the rim and sliding down until the foreskin is fully retracted can be very nice. For a Cut Daddy, the slick grip feels VERY nice especially if you run your thumb along the frenulum on the up stroke. If dry isn’t preferred, use the precum or spit on your hand to provide lubrication.

The Choke and Stroke:

This is a two handed technique that uses one hand with a firm downward pressure around the base as the other hand does either the Rising or the Up and down strokes. The hand at the base is to provide pressure and as discussed previously, keep blood in the penis while the other hand strokes it. This does make the penis swell a little, but you should always be mindful to avoid pain by gripping too tightly to the base. That hands job is primarily to keep the shaft pointed away from Daddy while the other hand moves back and forth along this shaft with the grip you should have established pleases him previously.

The Double Stroke:

This one has a few special side effects. You grip Daddy’s cock’s shaft with both hands either together like you are holding your own hands or one on top of the other as you perform the Up and Down stroke. The secret of this trick is it makes Daddy feel like his cock is huge in your hands, and it can feel that way in your hands too. A patient stroke and alternating a light or medium grip depending on location can bring a great deal of pleasure. You can slide your hands around the shaft like you are wringing out a towel (gently mind you) while doing this to change how it feels for Daddy. He may like the feeling, and sight, of you between his legs milking his cock toward your face.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 3: Daddy’s Cock from top to bottom.

Yes, we are going here. Now come along and be a Good boy and listen to what this Daddy has to tell you. 

Daddy’s cock is not a toy 
It may be fun to play with in different ways, but it should always be respected. Not only does it give him pleasure but it gives you pleasure too. Take your time getting to know and appreciate your Daddy’s cock in such a way as you learn how to please him best. Please: Be HONEST about your inexperience. Pretending to be an expert can end very badly, and some Daddy’s like helping you learn if you give them the chance. The differences between cocks are important to know and your best teacher will be your Daddy himself. There are different things to know about how to please a cut Daddy, an uncut Daddy and a Daddy with piercings or various conditions like phimosis or a dual frenula. While neither are very common to encounter, but it can be a real advantage to be aware of those conditions in case you run into them. When exploring Daddy’s cock, ALWAYS follow his lead and instructions. Actual Techniques will be discussed in depth in future volumes. For now, its basic anatomy and some discussion on the care and treatment of your Daddy’s penis. 
 
The Head:
The head is hands down the most sensitive part of the penis. It can easily be overstimulated, irritated or become painful if proper care isn’t used when attempting to please. It’s important to know the basic differences between the types of head you can encounter and what to do with them. There are 2 common and 2 uncommon variations you may encounter. First is the “Cut Daddy”. This in itself has two basic variations: the Fully Cut and the Partially Cut. The fully cut has been circumcised properly down to the base and has no foreskin or extra skin behind the head at all. The partially cut has most removed but not all, allowing some movement of that skin and may be pleasurable to manipulate. 

The circumcised penis has a different sensitivity and different areas that may be responsive to touch or other stimulation. The rim, and frenulum may be the most sensitive on a Cut Daddy, so pay special attention to testing out the level of sensitivity there. Always seek approval and confirmation from your Daddy when exploring those places. An “Uncut Daddy “has his foreskin intact and this provides an extra method of pleasing him. Knowing how the foreskin attaches to the back of the head (the frenulum) is very important as pulling it too far down can cause tearing and a great deal of pain. Depending on how tight or loose the foreskin is, you will need to adjust anything you do. Too tight and a firm grip or suction may become painful, too loose and a gentle touch might not mean much. The Uncut Daddy may enjoy feeling the skin roll back and forth across the rim, so consider that when applying suction or grip to it. Take your time, learn the limits and remember them, going too far or losing self control and going to fast or too hard can have disastrous effects.
 
Of note here are two previously mentioned conditions: Phimosis (a contracted or very tight foreskin that may cause the head to be shaped strangely or unable to retract the skin entirely) and Dual-frenula (which is when there is an attachment for the foreskin on both top and bottom of the head of the penis). These conditions relate especially to foreskin and how it was ‘treated’ as your Daddy grew up. Proper care and maintenance of a foreskin makes it a healthy part of your body but neglect or unfortunate conditions can cause it to become very difficult to receive pleasure. Phimosis, in its extreme forms can completely cut off pleasure, causing an extreme amount of pain when aroused. Dual-frenula mean that because the foreskin attaches in two places, there is double risk of tearing and pain, so use care and follow Daddy’s instructions in the matter. Patience is required when dealing with both conditions as they can be risky when having sex or any kind, and may even prevent normal ‘sex’ entirely.
 
There are some very common piercings found in the head. The most being the Barbell or Prince Albert (PA) piercings through the frenulum, the glans or directly through the shaft. These specific pieces of jewelry can increase the difficulty of pleasuring Daddy, so please ask him what to do if your Daddy has these present. He may be willing to take them out, or he may not. Be honest with him. Expressing concern shows you care and want to please, not hurt him. 
 
The Shaft:
This is the biggest area on most penises. It is also the most universal of areas, every man’s shaft has the same basic features, and so it requires less amount of discussion than the head. It is safe to explore with hand, mouth or whatever on most people. It counts for above the first inch at the base to just below the foreskin/circumcision line. This area does not have as much nerve endings as the head but should not be neglected. This area is a prime spot to use some of the stimulation techniques described in previous chapters. Make no mistake the whole penis is sensitive, but this allows you to help control the tempo and prolong the pleasure you are giving your Daddy. How this is done will be discussed in future volumes. The shaft may have a strong vein structure that causes the surface to have ridges, birth marks, moles or scars. Take your time and get to know them. They will help you later on. 
 
The Base:
The base is an area given little attention in most literature, even though it can become very important when used properly. The base, where you most often see a cock ring, can be used to slow down the rate at which orgasm approaches, even halt it entirely without causing pain. If jerked upward tightly it can become very painful, so bracing a hand and holding the base down (firmly or gently) can be good. The more effort you put into the pleasure, the more it becomes obvious that you are focused on the job at hand. Grip on the shaft with hand, mouth or anus, can provide pleasure as it massages blood through the soft spongy tissue, but grip on the base can hold those in place, causing swelling or cutting off the ejaculation entirely. That however can be a dangerous game, so be wary of attempting it.

The Balls:
There are almost as many names for the testicles as there are for the penis itself. They are sensitive egg shaped networks of tubes and veins inside a pouch of flesh. Each one is attached to nerves and tubes leading to the penis, and can get twisted and become painful so be gentle until instructed otherwise. Gentle suction, a light tug, or just hold them in your hand (they like warmth) can be very useful tricks. If you haven’t ever done so before, spend time between your Daddy’s legs, not touching anything just watching his balls. They move, dance even, and when close to orgasm will pull up tightly into ‘firing’ position. This is where cum is made, so treat them with care unless Daddy says otherwise. Then, as always, do what Daddy instructs.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 2: Intimacy

This is not approaching ‘heavy’ petting as discussed in previous lessons, but instead if focused on the ‘pre’ and ‘post’ game activities. This is where you get to show off how Good a boy you are without sexual activity. An example is this: In my house, my son comes down in the morning and the first thing he does is give me a kiss. Groggy, half asleep or showered and bright eyed, the very first thing he does is give me a kiss and say “good morning Daddy”. We never part company, even if just going out of the room when reasonable and when there is time away from each other involved, without saying I love you to each other and we never EVER part in anger. The closeness of a Dad/son relationship can be as close or closer than ours, or as distant in the opposite ways. We prefer an emotional as well as physical level of intimacy that may be uncomfortable for some people.

Getting to know each other is important, especially when it comes to intimacy, which can and is often different from sexual intimacy. Some people have a very hard time being emotionally close to someone, even if they have sex with them, other times it’s just about the sex and domination/submission. The spectrum ranges over a wide variety of things in this arena. Trial and error and experience help determine the boundaries. Some good activities to encourage intimacy are physical closeness without sexual activity.

As a boy, it is a double edged sword to want to rest your head in Daddy’s lap and have him stroke your head as you lay there. It can be very risky, or very much a tease. The choice is yours to make. Things like Snuggling up into your Daddy’s arm as you two sit on the couch watching television or music, sitting between his knees and resting your head on them while you talk to him helps for that feeling of closeness. Be comfortable in any position you can find yourself wanting to be closer to him that he is comfortable or willing to let you be in. Always respect boundaries and rules in your relationship.
Kissing:
There are three basic kisses. The ‘soft peck’ kiss, the ‘firm long kiss’ and the ‘deep kiss’. The soft peck is the most casual, not the least important however. It shows a desire to give affection without forcing an intimate moment to start. The firm long kiss shows more of this but runs a much higher risk of causing arousal of one or both partners. The Deep Kiss, is long, slow usually involves some tongue action and heavier petting. This one is pretty much a Green Light for sex. Knowing which and when to use can be very useful. A light peck in the morning, a firm kiss upon parting and a deep kiss when passion is called for are great ways to vary your kissing habits. Don’t always dive for the tongue (not everyone likes that) and don’t assume that Daddy is going to let you get away with a peck on the cheek in the morning. A good kiss is not entirely passive either, but follow your Daddy’s lead when it comes to these things and he will show you how he likes to be kissed, and will learn how you like to be kissed.
Cuddling:
This one is pretty simple sounding but doing it well takes practice. When curled up next to Daddy on the couch, wrap an arm over his chest and keep the lower arm along your side as putting it behind him might make him uncomfortable. In bed, be willing to change positions, don’t expect to always be the ‘cuddled’ as some Daddy’s love feeling their boy snuggled up behind them with their arms around hugging him like a teddy bear. The same is true in the other direction. Allow your Daddy to be as close as you are both comfortable when laying down together. I sleep with one arm under my sons pillow and the other wrapped around him pulling him close to me at night so he is pressed lengthwise along my body. I even tuck my feet under his so they are on top of mine, and his knees bent slightly so he feels that closeness. When I lay on my back, my son will curl up beside me and rest his head on my chest, which allows my arm that was under him to hold him around back, while the other hand comes over to grip the other one as a hug around him as he nuzzles into my chest hair. Being a Good boy, he never misses a chance to snuggle.
Appreciation:
This part goes both ways, as most of these lessons truly do, and extends beyond previous lessons into a few special areas. Your Daddy not only needs to feel and see that you appreciate him, but he needs to hear it. Like you need to hear that you are a Good boy, Daddy needs to feel appreciated AS your Daddy. The role of Daddy can be very serious for some of us, and as such we like hearing things like “Thank you Daddy” or “I’m the luckiest boy because I have you as a Daddy’. These also give him a chance to appreciate you too. This needs to go beyond simply not rolling over and snoring after sex, or even cuddling. There needs to be more mutual appreciation shown following the ‘roles and rules’ of the relationship. Nothing makes a boy feel safer than having Daddy’s arms wrapped around him as he falls asleep, and there is little better for me as a Daddy to know that my son feels perfectly safe, content and comfortable in my arms. Appreciation is something that should also not be neglected out of bed as well, and by making gratitude, appreciation and respect part of your relationship with Daddy you bring yourself closer to him.

A Boy's Guide to Pleasing Daddy Volume 1: Being a Good Boy.

These are some basic pointers for a Good boy when dealing with Daddy.

The first and most important thing for a Good boy is to want, no need, Daddy’s approval and his pleasure and to show that he does. As the boy, your desire to please, and pleasure your Daddy, is a key tool in achieving that very goal. His touch is one way he can show his pleasure, and approval, to you and it’s a prefect opportunity to respond in kind. Gently holding the side of your face, the back of your neck, putting his hand in the small of your back, or anywhere he wants to touch. These moments are your chance to respond with or without words. Smile, press your face into the hand, nuzzle the hand that’s touching you, show genuine appreciation for your Daddy at times like that especially. He is reaching out to touch you for a reason,accept and enjoy that fact. Your pleasure in what you are doing can become a very powerful tool to make him even happier. Some Daddies respond VERY strongly to sounds, like whimpers, moans, groans and sighs. Even things like giggling and laughter can bring pleasure to your Daddy. Ultimately only you will get to know your Daddy, and that takes time.

Second would be some basic behaviors. A Good boy has many responsibilities, including being on his best behavior at all times. When Daddy asks a question or decides to instruct, reply ‘Yes, Daddy’ and do your best to do as he has instructed. If you are having trouble doing something be honest with Daddy, and especially when he asks you something. “Thank you Daddy” is a good thing to remember as appreciation, respect and consideration are important features of a Good Boy. When he gives a direct instruction, follow as quickly and accurately as possible. It may not always be easy, but that could also be the point, to see how dedicated you are to what you are doing. Try hard, and when you need to, ask him for help. That can take the form of his hands guiding your head, holding your hips or hands, or anything else so he teaches you exactly how to do it. Ask if you are doing it right, doing a good job , or even ‘am I being a Good boy Daddy?’. Your ability to be honest, and to earnestly seek his approval as mentioned before is a key element that will be repeated throughout these lessons.

Third would be some basic skills: As previous lessons have instructed you have a basic knowledge of anatomy, response and pleasure thresholds and methods of responding to those factors. These guides can show you how Daddy wants to give you pleasure, how to respond appropriately and more importantly to this lesson how to give that pleasure to your Daddy. An erection is only one way to tell if your Daddy is enjoying what you are doing, but you need more than that. The difference between a random cocksucker and his boy is that you belong where you are, where he has placed you and shown he trusts you to be. It’s not simply a matter of obedience, as the previous lessons discussed, it is that you need to be there. It makes you truly happy that he enjoys what you do, and that he loves and trusts you enough to let you do it. I highly recommend each boy reads my lessons on fingering, rimming and especially the moans. These are instructions on how to not only make your Daddy desire you, but to show him pleasure he may never have experienced with anyone before, moving you from a Good boy to “Best Boy”, which is a coveted place for a boy. You know what Daddy can make you feel, and your desire to bring that out of him too is what will give you the determination needed to reach for that goal.

Fourth is Self Control. While this is a basic skill and a behavior set it deserves its own entry. Self-control for a boy is reflected in his ability to hold off the desire to pleasure himself (this is why some people use chastity devices, to deny that urge entirely) and his ability to follow instructions. Depending on the age and experience of your Daddy he may have had many more years at this and more hours than you, so his guidance and instruction should be followed. There are some positions that are not easy to master for a boy, because they can cause extreme stimulation, but they are worth putting certain things aside for a time. When a boy is given instructions that are counter to his immediate gratification he should obey them, there are good reasons for them, but having to stop and explain everything can ruin a mood. Ask questions, but at the right time. Being able to control yourself, your desire and your curiosity for a time are crucial skills. If you ask questions constantly, you may ruin the mood or worse, you might miss swallowing that load you worked so hard for. Keep your mind on your task and your eyes on the prize. What you want will come to you, especially if you are a good boy and follow these basic guidelines. Daddy still decides how and when, but that’s his job because its what you want him to do. You need him to want to give you pleasure, and these basic steps bring you one step closer to that goal.

Daddy Knows Best: Chapter Three: The Art of the Moan.

What is a moan?

A moan is a sound that comes out almost always beyond your control. Language has fled, and all that is left is the primal sound of pleasure. It is a confirmation, reinforcement and compliment to your partner. These sounds, ideally, come from both partners involved but for different reasons. Porn, being made up of actors who want you to believe what’s going on is the hottest sex ever, gives you moans way too early to be real. They are more groans, which are preludes to a true moan, like foreplay often precedes sex. No real moan can be rushed, it must be slowly coaxed out, teased, touched and baited to come to the surface. Bringing out a true moan takes patience, practice and time.
A true moan is a noise in response to not only passion, but stimulation and most often the result of denial of those two things. A moan does not require direct sexual stimulation and can be achieved with many different tricks to bring it out. It is like a secret sound, unique to each boy, like their own private language. As a Daddy one of my greatest pleasures is to bring this sound out of hiding and out of my boy. Each way used to help them reach that sound creates different sounds. Pitch, intensity, duration, a very musical experience to the trained, or experienced, ear.
There are many different kinds of moan and I am going to talk about a few of them here, and how to find them. The ways are nearly universal so long as you learn your partner’s hot spots and where they are most sensitive, both physically and sometimes self-esteem related. The most effective can be those places where they feel ashamed or that they feel make them unattractive. Stretch marks, scars, birth marks and the like, are great places to focus for a while so long as your partner is not overly sensitive about them. Always respect personal limits, but try at least once, to push them further back. Tops AND Bottoms can profit from these lessons, so pay attention carefully, and don’t be afraid to check in with your partner, confirmation is a sign to proceed.

The Five Basic Moans:

The Foreplay Moan:
This moan is is found by using creative touch without having to be naked at all. By stimulating primary senses through foreplay you can bring your partner into full arousal and bring this moan out. Often quiet, strained and sometimes higher pitch, this moan indicates a level of stimulation beyond that which simply foreplay can bring out. This moan can be achieved by patient, slow touch of the skin on the lips, neck, head and ears. Using fingertips, lips and breath you stimulate the areas gently to see which causes movement, changes of breathing or a change in eye contact. Kissing gently is a good way to start, as is tracing your fingers along major muscles and veins in those areas.
By stimulating blood flow you increase sensitivity in your partner, making them more responsive and more likely to moan. After you identify the ‘hot spots’ in the upper torso (which are important as the more involved as many senses as possible are the more awakened and aroused the body is) proceed to use deeper kisses for a while then breathe gently across the moistened skin. The contrast between the touch of your lips, tongue or teeth and your breath becomes a tease that can electrify those areas. Biting, chewing and deeper kisses or sucking should be done only after you have warmed the areas and made them more receptive. These express passion, dominance and are usually welcomed after the areas are more sensitive. Some people however are very skittish about them, so use gently at first to test the waters and gauge their reactions accordingly. Lips, side of neck over jugular vein, front of throat, lobe of ear, and chin are good areas to attempt this stage on.
While doing this, be sure to use your hands to cradle neck, hold their head from behind or the sides to bring in for a deeper kiss. This is the ‘Overture’ moan, and with practice, patience and a little determination, helps to break the ice and make your partner more pliable for further activity. 
 
The Teasing Moan:
This comes after you’ve stimulated the neck/head area, aroused them to use their senses like touch, smell and taste. This moan is a much more intimate one, often requiring your partner to be naked at the very least, you too preferred as the sight/smell/warmth of your body helps bring this one out. Sliding your body along theirs slowly and gently, creating light friction and slipping against their nipples, and using yours to touch them in various spots. From the starting area you move down slowly, paying attention to several ‘off the beaten path’ areas, like the pectoral muscle that leads to the armpit, the side of the ribcage at top and bottom, above the belly button, above each hip bone along the soft tissue beneath the lower abdominals.
These areas are usually ignored, and respond VERY well to touch. Using not just your mouth or hands, inhale along the skin in very sensitive areas and exhale slowly. Use your breath to stimulate any body hair (not usually the armpit though some like that) gently, run your fingers through it and occasionally ‘claw’ them gently. Kiss areas that have scars as mentioned before. This intimate touch says “I want you for all that you are” and reaffirms their attractiveness to you in ways they may not expect. Your appreciation for them should be shown occasionally with a low murmur of approval, a groan (low and long) if you are genuinely turned on by what you are touching can work wonders and helps engage hearing in the game.
This moan should be achieved with extra patience, and WITHOUT directly stimulating genitals. Do not touch the penis, balls, taint or rectum. Instead chew, breathe on, kiss and rub the lower abdominals, the inside stretch of the legs from knee to the hip joint, the backs of knees, even ankles or feet. Explore your partner for every inch they have to offer and show them what turns them on by discovering it together. The cleft under the bottom (if they are face down) can be especially sensitive and should not be ignored if at all possible. Do not be afraid that you are ‘going too slowly’, that is the point of this exploration.
Take your time, go as slowly as you wish, and be sure to go slowly enough to bring out this kind of moan. It often comes with a tensing of the stomach, a flex of the legs upward, a grip on your shoulders or a biting of knuckles to restrain it. Don’t let them, bring it out, even if they want to hold it in. Your job is to help them learn to release their pleasure and not strangle it. When you receive this moan respond in your own way, confirming your pleasure and reassuring them that what you want is to make that happen for them.
A word of Caution here: Tickling can have very strong results both negative and positive, so be careful to NOT tickle often. Instead use stronger, deeper touch in those areas to avoid tickling unless they are stimulated by that, then alternate the deeper with the lighter touch.



The Fuck me Daddy Moan:
This moan comes from direct stimulation of certain parts of the body. In previous lessons I have described how to finger and rim your bottom, and this is the stage when you do those things. However there are a few things to point out here that go beyond those lessons. Now is when you concentrate your touch on the inner thigh where it joins the pelvic bone, touch the testicles, penis (foreskin gets treated separately here and comes before stimulating the rest if present). Take extra time along the stretch leading from the back of the balls down to the top of the ring before fingering and rimming.



The Holy shit that’s deep moan:
This moan is a little more primal, sometimes a gasp followed by the moan itself. Sometimes it is a high pitched whine or whimper, and other times it is a low deep almost growl. This comes from stimulating the prostate and internal areas slowly, inserting a little more over time. A gigantic thrust all at once can create this moan but should not be done upfront. That comes later, and should be avoided right now. Now is when you tease slowly, keeping the head sliding in and out of the ring first, for at least a few moments before pushing in one inch at a time until you hit the prostate. If you have learned to make your cock jump, pause at the prostate and tap it by making your cock jump against it. This works when they are face down or butt up.
The longer the stroke the more likely you are to get the moan because they become more aware of just how far in you are going. If you accomplished the previous moan, the length of your cock is almost irrelevant so long as you can hit the prostate. This one takes patience and time, but is well worth it, because when the moan comes, it is accompanied by movements and tension internally. These feel fantastic, so really take your time to earn this one. Once you have it, go for gold and start sliding in faster, but shallow at first, then deeper over time, but keeping the faster pace until you are bottoming out inside them. This usually brings a second ‘holy shit’ moan. Which is VERY satisfying. Be sure to reaffirm, touch base with your partner, and by ‘asking what they want’ you assert a little dominance, especially when you don’t jump and do it that second. Take a few moments before giving them what they want. Remember, delay of gratification is a major source of moans.

The Oh My God I need to Cum Moan:
This moan is one of the last I’ll talk about today. This one requires your partner to not be masturbating heavily during the last moan. This one is not, like the rest aren’t, required for good sex but it can bring things to a different ‘level’ in terms of moan and pleasure. This one is a denial or orgasm moan. If you have been patient, followed the lessons here, your partner should be damn near feral by this point. They not only want YOU to cum but they NEED to themselves. By restricting this for a while, you force them to deny their own pleasure (which often ENDS sex by the way so keep this one in mind if your partner cums then squeals for you to pull out, this helps keep them in the game for the full ride).When they beg you to cum, tell them things like ‘you aren’t half way done yet’ or ‘Not long now’ (depends on if your boy responds more to being told there is more work to do, or they have almost gotten you off). Either way, control your own urge to cum and keep from plowing them like a field before planting crops.
Don’t let up, but change tempo, slow things back to a tease when they beg to cum, tease them more with touch and biting but pull your own speed back at this point. When they being to writhe, moan like a banshee and claw the bed, THEN you bring your speed back up until they are bucking against you, aching for you to cum inside them. You can, if they behave and don’t start masturbating yet, reach for their cock and slowly stroke them for a bonus moan at this time. If you feel like its time for you to cum, and to really rock his world, this is when his orgasm can cause and amplify your own. Encourage them to cum, help them do it, or make them do it on your own. Be sure they know you want to FEEL their orgasm as you are deep inside them, their ass gripping down, milking that cum from your cock like a hungry mouth. Dirty talk is VERY common and often very effective at this point. Don’t be afraid to try it out, see what works, and let em have it. When they cum, allow yourself to join them, moan together or at different times but release your own pleasure into them, and accept theirs as a gift for you. You’ve done your job and brought out more noise and pleasure than they probably have ever experienced before. Well done.

Daddy Knows Best: Chapter Two: The Basics of Rimming

The Basics of Rimming:
Rimming isn’t just a matter of ‘eating out’ a nice butt. It’s about touch, heat and pleasing your bottom. By properly rimming you help them relax, which is crucial for more activity to go smoothly. I usually advise rimming BEFORE fingering for several reasons, not the least of which is it helps relax the anus making that stage of fingering much easier but NOT to be neglected. Sex that is like in porn is barely the middle of the spectrum of pleasure a good Top can make his bottom experience. I will cover several different aspects of Rimming in this lesson, and later I will discuss how to combine the two to create a more advanced technique.



Part 1: Positions to rim in.
There are several positions to rim in, the two most popular are when your bottom is on all fours, back straight and bottom fully exposed, and the other is on their back with their legs tucked upward, but really any position where your bottom is comfortable can work.
These first two positions are most useful because of where the prostate is located during the activity. On all fours, gravity is holding it in close to its normal position. On their back, the prostate is lowered slightly, almost dangling behind the inner walls and is easier to stimulate in this position. Both are equally useful, though my favorite is on their backs, because it also allows you to massage the groin around the genitals (and to a degree ignore them, but there are several reasons for that and different times to pay attention to them, right now you want them focused on their ass, so don’t jump the gun and switch centers of pleasure on them, stay focused on their ass, just like you want them to be.)

Part 2: What to do and when.

Experience is the best teacher, but some foreknowledge will help you recognize the signals your bottom can’t hide or resist telling you about. Lets take our first look at what you have to use in this situation. You have 5 tools already at your disposal on your face alone for stimulating your bottom as a Top. In order I recommend these being used and most often: Breath, Lips, Tongue, Nose and Chin.
Breath: This ranges from a slow gentle close exhale, to a quick cooling breath across the sensitive skin of the anus. A slow deep exhale, especially with a sigh or growl from you provide audible stimulation as well as vibration through the area if you are up against the ring itself. It lets your bottom know you are enjoying eating their ass without porn dialogue, and those gentle vibrations help stimulate the internal organs you are looking forward to fucking. Breath is foreplay, and can be used to  spur your bottom further or make them shiver depending on which technique you use. As a Top you also need to remember to breathe when eating so it lasts longer and so you don’t wind up passing out or having to stop. Continual contact and stimulation is the goal here.
Lips can be used to place gentle kisses, deep long kisses, slid aside to expose teeth for biting, nibbling and chewing (which I recommend to use occasionally, alternated with a cooling breath to bring maximum stimulation) and gives the bottom a genuine sensation of being eaten, which can be very arousing for some boys. Lips can also be dragged across the skin of the anus by placing your top lip above the ring, and pulling down slowly, if your lips are dry they will skid a little, which is a different sensation from the other techniques used, and can be very helpful for breaking the ice and getting to the good stuff and lead directly to the use of the tongue.
Tongue is the most obvious and the most used and useful tool as it is warm, wet and gentle even when pressed firmly against the ring of the anus, and it is the one you have the second most control over, breath being the most controlled technique. The tongue can probe through the folds of the anus, flick across the skin, or slather it up with long strokes. The tongue is by far the most effective technique for direct stimulation.
Nose has a few interesting uses to be used occasionally as counter point to the tongue. A deep inhalation of the scent, followed by a slow exhale through the mouth provides both an opportunity to catch your breath but to enhance that feeling of being eaten and for some, worshiped, and lets be honest, the scent of a butt can be VERY arousing. Another technique involves using the nose instead of a finger, and dragging it across the ring from down to up, which puts the lips in line to bite/kiss, the breath in position to exhale directly on the ring, and then the final tool is in position to be used.
The Chin can be occasionally useful and has various applications. If you are clean shaven, the chin will slide smoothly, if you have stubble, used gently this can ‘tickle’ or stimulate further blood flow into the area. A beard however long, so long as it isn’t stubble or still sticking straight out from the chin, can be used to stimulate and ‘clean up’ the spit from other techniques. The chin can also be used to drag, like the lips, but in the opposite direction. By alternating the lip drag and the chin scrape, you have a soft sensation going down and a stronger, firmer sensation going up, and once again put you in position to go right back to using your breath and tongue.



The Final Lesson: Putting it all together and the Combination Technique.
Rimming shouldn’t be a ‘clean’ event, its a contact sport, the same with fingering. If you’ve paid attention to the order I’ve described events in, a typical scene should run like this. 
 
Your boy, laying on his back with his knees up, feels you slide down behind his hole. You start with a gentle exhale of warm air across the skin while gently massaging his cheeks, you place a soft kiss on the ring, then lick upward with your tongue, exhaling across the skin as you go. You drag your upper lip from the top to the bottom of the hole flicking with your tongue as you go down. You take a deep inhale as your nose slides past, then bringing your chin upward, slide your chin up exhaling as you go past again. You stop now, to kiss the ring, flick it with your tongue, probe gently with the tip and massage the inner thighs and cheeks with your hands. You gently slide the cheeks apart and press your face against the hole and begin moving your tongue in circles, tapping the ring with the tip, and kissing, biting and chewing the skin around the inner thighs, taint and above and below the hole.
Taking a breather, you sit back, still gripping his cheeks in your hands. You turn your thumbs toward his ring and being gently massaging the flesh to either side of his now warm ring. You know from his reactions and his gasps, you’ve done your job, as he whimpers quietly while he holds his legs in the air for you. You shift your hands so you don’t break contact, and slide one hand down while still holding his other cheek. Slowly you begin rubbing your finger around the rim, pausing now and again to tap the center of the hole to wake it up even more and let it know its time for more. You begin alternating the circling finger with a slide slowly from the top to the ring to press firmly with the tip without entering yet. You know the longer you make him wait for what he wants the greater his need for it.
You begin sliding your finger pad from top to bottom, bracing it with a finger crossed behind it so your touch is firm but not forcing the hole to open because you want it to open for you not because of you. Slowly you begin sliding the tip of the first finger past the ring as it begins winking at you, encouraging you to go further. Not wanting to miss the invitation, you slide in to the first knuckle and gently, slowly, slide back out and circle the ring once more with your finger. Then you slide back in, this time a little further, and pull out even slower than before. Taking your time, you continue until you’ve slid your finger in all the way, moving one knuckle at a time, and when that final penetration comes to go all the way you slide slowly in until you feel a roundness under your fingertip. Gently you begin rubbing it, massaging it slowly but firmly, as your boy begins to tense and flex around your finger, you know you’ve hit your destination, his prostate and slide your finger gently out to massage the ring again.
 
Daddy Says: Here is where the combination of techniques comes in. It may be common sense but common sense is an uncommon virtue, so it bears explaining here. 
 
The Combination Technique.

Taking everything I’ve described previously, you start all over, but mix techniques together. You’ve already gone finger deep but this is only half way to really being ready to get fucked. Relaxed and open is just part of it, you want your bottom writhing on the bed by the time he feels the head of your cock tip tease across his hole before sliding in. This is how the rest of it goes.

You slide back down to lick around the rim with your tongue, exhaling across the skin, not withdrawing your finger fully, but leaving the tip in, dragging the hole downward slightly so your tongue can slide up your finger and in past the ring at the tip. Exhaling into the ring itself, you slide your finger in deep again to massage the prostate, licking the ring around your finger and pausing to take a gentle bite of the soft inner thigh while you slide your finger out.
You know that alternating penetration with a little bite distracts from discomfort and makes it easier to continue. You slide your finger out all the way and using both hands spread the ring gently and dive in with your tongue, massaging the ring with your fingers as your tongue presses firmly against the ring. With your tongue tip there, you slide first one fingertip then a second to just the first knuckle past the ring so your tongue can more easily wet the interior ring. Inhaling deeply and letting out a low moan, the shivers make your boy contract around your finger as you place deep kisses against his ring, teasing with your chin and flicking with your tongue. Sliding one finger in, still keeping the second tip at the ring your tongue slides up to lick the taint then back down as your finger slides back out until both are just inside the ring. You continue this until the ring relaxes and you slide the second finger in gently, along side the first into the slick opening that is now aching for much more.
You bite a little harder on a thigh then drag your tongue along the skin back to the ring as you slide two fingers gently back out. Slowly, patiently you continue alternating and combining techniques until your fingers slide without much resistance in and out. Then you know its time, and not just because your bottom is begging you loudly to fuck him, but because his ass is red, wet and aching, pulsing around your fingers. Then you slide up to kiss him, and brush the head of your cock against his hole.

The rest as they say is where nature takes over. Take your time enjoy teasing your bottom into a frenzy, and enjoy each other in as many ways as you can. Bon Appetite.