Lessons from Daddy: Talking Dirty

Verbal play has a wide variety of form during a session but outside of one should, again in my opinion, never cross the line into abuse and degradation. A REAL boy is a treasure as a submissive and despite playing as rough as he needs it to be, ruining him would be unforgivable. You can enact every single kind of fantasy without causing damage, breaking the law, or risking the health of a submissive. You simply have to know what you are doing, how to do it, and take the required steps to make that fantasy a reality for a time.

The language can be changed to fit the kind of play, and should be. From baby to princess to pup, I consider them ‘genre’ subsets of the D/s fetish  and each comes with their own vocabulary:

Adult baby play, you use simpler words a gentle and rising “sing song’ or ‘baby talk’ tone. and at most a firm tone without sounding ‘angry’’ they’ve been naughty, the same you’d get back from them when they expressed their feelings and needs.

Son you would use the familial language as well as ‘boy affirming’ names like slugger, champ while they call you Daddy, Father, Dad etc.

Princess would use feminizing terms like pussy, clit, cunt and and so on.

Pup would be similar to baby in the tone and simple terms but would also include a sharper tone.

Here’s a ‘script’ of how verbal dominance can be played out in varying degrees in a D/s scene involving a Dom of one variety or other and a submissive boy who wants to suck him. The only difference is in the word choices:

Tender: “What’s the matter boy? You look hungry... Are you hungry son? Is this what you want =flops cock into view= is it? Go ahead boy, it’s all for you. That’s it. Such a good boy sucking Daddy and look at you, so happy making Daddy proud.”

Moderate: “I don’t want to hear you speak. I want to hear you suck, are we clear boy? This isn’t about you being anything but a cocksucker now get to it. ”

Rough: “You worthless fucking piece of shit, look at you, I’d rather fuck a toilet than stick my dick in that wrecked ass. Get over here and do the only useful thing left you can do: suck my dick. Take it you little bitch.You want that huh? You want to suck a real man’s dick don’t you?”

What is the purpose of Talking Dirty like this? To fulfill the fantasy and desires of both people involved. When a boy wants to feel like a dirty slut, then his Dom can use this kind of language to make that happen. It’s a form of Dominance that I prefer to use because it’s so easily changeable during a play session. If I sense that my boy needs something more, I can move through the degrees until I find the place that strikes a chord within him. Then I move him into the headspace he needs and the rest follows naturally and is a good way to transition between types of sex.